u/LegitimateLunch6247

I have a sister who berates me, puts me down, and criticizes everything I do. And then there’s my mom, who’s so starved for family love that she’s basically helping destroy her own immediate family in the process.

I genuinely believe both of them are good people at their core… but today crossed a line for me. I’m still drained 8 hours later. My mom (who’s in her 60s) threatened that she’ll just leave and never come back again 😵‍💫 for a bit of insight into the narcissism that was happening when I told her she hurt me.

I’m just wondering… at what point do you stop trying?
I’ve been told they may simply not be capable of real emotional depth. So do you just keep showing up forever because they don’t have the tools for a functional relationship? Or do you eventually draw a hard line?

If any of you have drawn that line with a parent or sibling…when did you do it, and do you regret it?
Grandkids are involved in this situation too, which makes everything messier.

Feeling pretty lost right now and would really appreciate hearing how others have handled something similar.

We’re considering a move to Franklin (or the surrounding area) and would really appreciate some perspective from people who actually live there. I know the running joke is “don’t move here, we’re full” 😂 but Franklin keeps coming up in our search.
My husband and I are in our early 30s with two very young boys. We’re currently in Michigan and looking for somewhere we could really put down roots and raise our kids long term.

A few of the things that are most important to us:
• Safe, family oriented neighborhoods where kids are actually outside playing and there are lots of other young families
• Green, pretty surroundings and access to parks/outdoor activities
• Strong schools and plenty of activities/sports for kids as they get older
• Close enough to a major city that there are solid career opportunities if remote work becomes less common. My husband works in sales
• A community where families tend to be involved and connected
• A more conservative leaning culture overall

The last point is part of why we’re considering leaving Michigan. We’re not looking for somewhere where everyone thinks exactly like us, nor do we have a problem living around people with different views. We already do! But when choosing where to raise our children, we would like to live somewhere where our more traditional/conservative values are fairly
common and we don’t feel like the odd ones out.

More than anything, we’re newer parents trying to choose a place where our boys can have a really good childhood. Safe neighborhoods, friends nearby, a strong community, and a place that feels like home.

For those of you raising families in Franklin or nearby, does that sound like Franklin? Are there particular neighborhoods or surrounding towns you think we should look at? Anything about actually raising kids there that you think an outsider should know?

And maybe most importantly, would a family like ours feel welcome there? We definitely don’t want to move somewhere where locals genuinely resent newcomers