u/Legitimate_Fold557

Guys,

I'm a 23M.

Never been in an actual relationship. Yes I was in multiple situationships offcourse 1 at a time thinking it might evolve into a relationship but eventually that good 6-12 months of my life got wasted.

Was talking to this women she was 2 years elder than me. This was in my first job when I was 19. It was classic script where we both hated each other at the start but later on started talking like crazy. Having conversations with her for like 4-5 hours every single freaking nights. Starting from 11 pm to maybe 3 or 4 am maybe more. And this after a full day of working in same office. We used to share moments but when I asked here on my last working day she rejected me. Since this was my first female interaction at this level as usual I requested here threw away my self respect. It's been more than a year I still think of here. We haven't blocked each other but yeah she likes my stories. But when we talk is always ends up she being rude to me.

She's a Punjabi and presently she 25 so her family has started look for groom and maybe they have got one. She posted a picture with him. I was not a good feeling.

She recently dropped me a MSG saying "I don't help but if you're willing you can help me with XYZ...."

She's in my WhatsApp Archive so When I was that message my heart started beating like crazy. I could feel that uneasiness. But I remembered she was not open about us being in a relationship. So I replied NOT INTERESTED.

She said okayy thankss.

Now what I feel is I need a person with whom I can be vulnerable, one who can give reassurance about life that it's okay to be the way I am. But my thought process is bruised. I feel now again I have to go through this cycle of getting in a relationship. Where I have spend 2-3 months in talking stage then again put in some efforts and after 6 months I would be again left with nothing.

I need a partner but I'm afraid I'll end up my heart broken. What should I do?

Ghor kalyug hai dosto.

Kash Thanos chutki baja deta toh kya hi baat thi **(btw chota bheem waaali chutki nhi)**

Ghor kalyug hai dosto.

Kash Thanos chutki baja deta toh kya hi baat thi **(btw chota bheem waaali chutki nhi)**

Let’s keep this conversation purely friendly but brutally honest.

No fake deep talks, no trying to impress each other. Just random thoughts, hidden rants, things you’ve been keeping inside for too long, and conversations people usually avoid having.

We’ll probably overshare a little, laugh at our own life decisions, have coffee or food, and yes, Splitwise at the end because emotional damage is free, but food isn’t.

Interested ones dm me.

Kal shaam ko milte hai✌️

I’m 23(M). She used to work with me, and I’ve always felt there was some attraction from her side. At a party once, when she was drunk, she said she’d date a guy if he had qualities like mine. She was also quite touchy that night, but nothing happened because I wasn’t interested back then.

Later, on my last working day, she mentioned she was seeing a guy who was completely head over heels for her and agreed with everything she said, which she found to be a huge turn-off. She even said that if he had some of my qualities, she would’ve considered taking things further with him.

I don’t work there anymore, and we don’t really talk now. Her absence doesn’t really affect my life either. Still, I do find her attractive, so I’m wondering if I should directly ask her about a FWB or casual setup. If yes, how should I bring it up with out sounding weird or disrespectful?