u/Less-Neighborhood-86

Hi y’all!
I’m a 24yo new grad RN in california, and have accepted a job in a residency NICU position in alaska. However, my dad just got diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer and I feel i want to be closer to home to help. I got a job offer in a residency position for surgical oncology in washington state.
My dad encourages me to pursue the NICU still, but I know his time is limited here and i would hate to not be able to spend as much time with him as I could.
Am I screwing myself if I don’t take NICU now? Is it possible for me to still pursue it later on in my career?

Hi y’all!
I’m a 24yo new grad RN in california, and have accepted a job in a residency NICU position in alaska. However, my dad just got diagnosed with stage 4 kidney cancer and I feel i want to be closer to home to help. I got a job offer in a residency position for surgical oncology in washington state.
My dad encourages me to pursue the NICU still, but I know his time is limited here and i would hate to not be able to spend as much time with him as I could.
Am I screwing myself if I don’t take NICU now? Is it possible for me to still pursue it later on in my career?

I’m a 24 yo M, a newly licensed registered nurse in California as of July 2025, and now have two fantastic opportunities for a job. Help me work this out:
a) NICU & Pediatrics in Anchorage, Alaska - NICU is what interested me to become a nurse. So far, I’ve always wanted to be in NICU.
b) Surgical oncology in Everett, WA - I’ve always seen myself moving and living in washington state full time. Surgical oncology is awesome, but i can’t say it’s been my dream job.
The hard part: My dad JUST got diagnosed with cancer, suspected stage 4 kidney cancer. He’s been my best friend and if he has a short time to live, i can’t see myself being 3000 miles away in the last years of his life. However, he encourages me to pursue NICU. We have the first oncology appointment this friday, but both hospitals want a decision ASAP, basically now.
Alaska offers me my supposed dream job, but how can i know that if i just like the idea of it - i’ve never worked with babies! Washington offers the dream location, easily able to drive back to NorCal and support my family and take care of my grandparents. Job vs location. Help.

I’m a 24 yo M, a newly licensed registered nurse in California as of July 2025, and now get to choose between two amazing job offers:
a) NICU & Pediatrics in Anchorage, Alaska - NICU is what interested me to become a nurse. So far, I’ve always wanted to be in NICU.
b) Surgical oncology in Everett, WA - I’ve always seen myself moving and living in washington state full time. Surgical oncology is awesome, but i can’t say it’s been my dream job.
The hard part: My dad JUST got diagnosed with cancer, suspected stage 4 kidney cancer. He’s been my best friend and if he has a short time to live, i can’t see myself being 3000 miles away in the last years of his life. However, he encourages me to pursue NICU. We have the first oncology appointment this friday, but both hospitals want a decision ASAP, basically now.
Alaska offers me my supposed dream job, but how can i know that if i just like the idea of it - i’ve never worked with babies! Washington offers the dream location, easily able to drive back to NorCal and support my family and take care of my grandparents.
TL;DR - Do I choose my dream job 3000 miles away, or a job in my dream living location close to home and family.