How to deal with an insecure boss?
I have a manager whose made the workplace uncomfortable to be in. In all my past reviews communication has been listed as the only problem. I do my job very well, but my boss complains that I have an attitude and don't communicate well. We've been doing weekly meetings lately, we're i shared my thoughts and concerns.
A few issues I have with her are:
when I have a questions I usually need to clarify it in multiple ways for her to get it. I've gotten in trouble before because she said one thing and later on it wasn't correct and it was seen as my fault. Its like she answers without hearing what I'm saying.
I feel that she analyzes me. I don't say or do anything rude. So at our past meeting I had her clarify what she meant by my attitude. She was very vague but after making her clarify it more and more, it was chalked down to my " face changes and the energy changes." Which is the reason she tells higher ups I have communication issues?
I get the feeling she thinks she needs to establish dominance? I don't know if this is because of past employees she had, but she is always clarifying that she's the manager. Which I've never contested. And due to this I cant send messages to other departments without her getting paranoid or offended. So ive just started cc'ing her in everything.
Needless to say all these factors have made working under her uncomfortable because I guess if my face changes she sees it as an offense to her?
I like what I do, and I get along nicely with everyone else in the company.
I'm also the only one who works directly with her/under her, so her side of the story is the only one higher ups get.
I just don't feel like its my responsibility to regulate her emotions or her with mine. And I'm not sure what to do about it because when I bring up my concerns she got very defensive and either denied doing those things or got very condensending.
She has trouble taking accountability in my opinion.
Basically I just want her to be like a basic boss that just cares if I get shit done, but i feels she hovering over me reading any sign in my face, for whatever reason.
If there's a corporate way of saying "can you get off my ass and stop being a werido" I would certainly like to hear it.