u/Life-Seaweed-8042

About a year ago I finally left my abusive husband of 19 years. I have recently thought of dating and have been texting someone for a bit to get to know him better. We both have kids so haven’t been able to spend time in person. We have a tentative plan to meet next week. I started thinking about what it might be like to want to spend more time with him. And I’ve realized that I’m terrified to be alone with a man again. Has anyone experienced this after abuse? I’m trying not to let fear consume me but I genuinely feel sick to my stomach thinking about it. I don’t want to waste this man’s time on my trauma. What to do?

About a year ago I finally left my abusive husband of 19 years. I have recently thought of dating and have been texting someone for a bit to get to know him better. We both have kids so haven’t been able to spend time in person. We have a tentative plan to meet next week. I started thinking about what it might be like to want to spend more time with him. And I’ve realized that I’m terrified to be alone with a man again. Has anyone experienced this after abuse? I’m trying not to let fear consume me but I genuinely feel sick to my stomach thinking about it. I don’t want to waste this man’s time on my trauma. What to do?