u/LifeMun

I have been in tech for 14 years, I am a director at a series C startup. I manage a team of 8 engineers and 2 PMs. I am the only woman at the director level in my department.

For the last 3 years I have been the person who fixes everything. The sprint that is behind. The client escalation at 10 pm. The hiring pipeline that dried up, the team members who need coaching. I handle it all and I smile while doing it, because I know that if I look tired in a meeting someone will use to confirm that women can't handle leadership.

Last month I was in the ER with chest pains. Th doctor told me that it was stress and I needed to make some changes immediately. I laughed and said I would try. I did not try. I was back online that same night, because we had a release.

This week two of my best female engineers told me they are leaving. Both said the same thing. They love the work but they feel exhausted. They see me work 70 hours a week and they know that is the expectation if they want to grow. I wanted to tell them to stay and fight, but I could not they were right. I am the example they are following and I have not slept more than 5 hours a night in months.

I have been reading everything I can about women in leadership and burnout. I found the close Cohen Executive Transition report and the data on senior leaders made me realise this is not a me problem. It is a structural problem. But knowing that does not fix anything.

I am supposed to present our Q3 roadmap next week and I have not started the deck because I can not focus more than 20 min without feeling like I am going to pass out. I am terrified that if I take a real break everything will fall apart. I am also terrified that if I don't I will be the next person in the community posting about chronic illness.

I don't know what I am asking for, maybe just proof that other senior women have survived this without destroying their health. Maybe the permission to stop being the fixer for once.

If you survived this, how did you do it? Thanks.

I'm about 10 months out from ACL reconstruction with a hamstring graft and I'm hitting that plateau where PT gains have slowed way down. Still dealing with lingering tendon stiffness around around the graft site and my quad activation is maybe 80% on a good day.

I've been reading about the Wolverine Stack and I'm specifically looking at getting a BPC-157/-TB-500 blend instead of two separate vials because it is a pain in the ass to stick yourself multiple times a day, or stick an 18G into multiple vials. I found Valar Peptides which sells the blend which matters to me because I've read too many horror stories about bunk imported stuff so I am not trying to be a victim.

But before I drop the money I wanted to ask if anyone here has used a blended Vial for ACL recovery specifically. Did you feel you were getting the full dose of both., or is there a reason everyone seems to buy them separate? If you have a BPC-157/-TB 500 blend post surgery what was your protocol? Not looking for a source debate, just trying to figure out if the blend route is legit or I'm better off doing the separate vial and being extra careful with the bac water. Thanks in advance.

Fresh fried dough and hot sweet tea at 4pm.

Outside gets that slight crunch, inside stays soft. It is the I will just have one snack that turns into three.

Not sure if this counts as snacking or just stalling dinner. What is your nostalgic snack combo that you still crave? Need ideas before I eat this every day for a month.

We are launching a new software product next quarter and I need to generate leads on Linkedln. I have a list of about 2000 prospects but I do not want to send the same generic message to everyone. I also do not want to get blocked by Linkdeln for sending too many requests. What is the safest and most effective way to run a large scale outreach campaign on Linkedln without looking like a robot?

My daily mod now dies after just few hours even with fresh batteries. I've tried new cells and cleaning contacts, but it hasn't helped much. I'm tired of carrying power banks or hunting outlets during the days. Is there any way of squeezing life out of older mods or is it better to replace the device. I'm looking for user experiences with battery degradation on mods, what has been your experience? Thanks!

I've been applying for jobs sending resumes but all I get is rejections at times I feel like am a failure, am stagnated at the same point and nothing seems to make sense. I've spend the little I have going for interviews and come back frustrated and this is taking a mental toll on me. I'm just here wondering if this will ever change

I added TikTok ads about four months ago because Meta CPMs were getting really expensive. I'm spending around $800 a month. TikTok's dashboard shows every conversations but when I check Shopify the numbers never line up. My media buyer says TikTok attribution is just weak by nature and I should trust it less than Meta. Is that actually true and how are people measuring TikTok results properly?

I run a support team of eight at mid sized Saas and we turned on Zendesk AI features about four months ago hoping it would take a real world of our plates. The replies it features sends are honestly fine, sometimes better than what a tired agent would write at 6pm, but the problem is that is literally all it does. The ticket still needs tagging, the CRM still needs updating, the summary still needs writing, and half the time someone has to re categorise it anyway because the bot picked the wrong macro. So my team's hours did not really go down. They just shifted to cleanup work, which is arguably more annoying than just answering the ticket in the first place. I am starting to wonder if I picked the wrong tool or if justthe ceilingof what AI in support can actaully do today.

Edit: Thanks for all the feedback. It has been pointed out that I may not be using enough of Zendesk automation and workflow features yet, so I am thoroughly goin to look into that. Several platforms have come up in the comments as well. My closer look is going to be on Aissist and Decagon on how they handle end to end workflow arough all those critical areas. Thanks again.

the manhattan-vs-long-island thing in dating is just real. you match with someone in the city, conversation is great, then they find out youre based in nassau or suffolk and you can watch them just stop responding. ive had it happen probably 8 times this year alone.

40f, manhasset. been dating around long island and nyc for years.

decided im paying for help. a few names come up over and over in my research - its expensive but at this point its an investment in not wasting another year. anyone here on long island actually done this with results?