u/LiteratureOwn6143

Hi all. I'll try to make the story as concise as possible. I might seem stupid for being worried, but I really want this to go well.

I (27M) have been following this girl (25F) on TikTok and Instagram for over a year. We live in different countries (I love hers and speak her native language), both within the EU. She's a content creator on a specific topic, and I happen to be a professional in that subject, so as soon as I saw one of her videos, I liked her. One year later, I sent her a DM with something she might like, and she saw it after a month. She replied saying sorry for the delay, started following me, and we began to interact, with her liking some of my stories (I must confess I posted a story as a bait for her like, I knew it was something she was going to like)…

Over the next few weeks, she posted videos every day, and I commented on all of them. She replied to all my comments with great vibes, as if we knew each other really well. However, from the beginning, she didn't reply to my direct messages as much as I would have liked. She wouldn't leave them on "read", just unopened. Anyway, she recently told me she was sorry for not having replied to a specific message because she had been having crazy days. Meanwhile, in the comments, she's still very warm, even engaging in inside jokes we've developed in this short time.

I'm pretty sure (around 95%) that she is single, though it seems she got out of a long-distance relationship two or three months ago.

I got to think that maybe she didn't want to interact with me on a more "personal" level, but then, yesterday, she liked the two stories that I posted: one of them was just my face (I almost never post pictures of myself and it was the first time I posted my face since she follows me), and the other one a random thing not related to the topic we share. So I believe it's obvious I'm someone she's somehow interested in me, even if it's not romantically.

I know I don't really know her yet, but I also know I'd like to. We have a lot in common, and she's cute. I'm a nice guy, and even if we never date, I would genuinely love to get to know her, we could be great friends.

Some people think I should back off. But I feel like I have to show interest if I am interested. Of course, this doesn't mean being annoying, but when we've actually talked, she's always told me how cool I am. I just want to make the leap to the next phase and get to know each other on a more personal level. She's worth the try.

Any perspectives on how to handle this would be greatly appreciated.

Hi everyone,

I’m running some simulations on a brand-new machine with AMD Ryzen Threadripper 9970X, 128 GB of RAM, GPU Nvidia 5080, and high-spec SSD and mother board set up. While it absolutely flies with other programs, I can’t shake the feeling I’m not getting everything out of it with HEC-RAS 6.7.

The CPU only ever hits about 55 ℃ during these runs. With other modelling software I’m regularly seeing up to 80 ℃, so the thermal headroom is definitely there. The simulations are finishing far quicker than on any other computer I’ve used, which is great, but the low temperatures make me suspect there’s still some performance left on the table. It’s already using all 32 cores, so it’s not a simple core-parallelism issue.

I don’t know whether HEC-RAS has a known bottleneck with a particular component that would stop it from pushing the hardware harder. Has anyone managed to squeeze extra speed out of HEC-RAS on a high-spec machine, or are these sorts of temperatures typical even when it’s running flat out? Any tips on optimisation would be hugely appreciated.

Thanks a lot!

Hi everyone,

I have been using Anki to learn a language for about a month. Initially, my note type only generated 1 card (Card 1: English → TL text input). I have about 800 notes in my deck which I already learnt. Today, I decided to add two new card templates to the same note type: Card 2 (Reading) and Card 3 (Listening/Dictation).

As expected, this instantly generated ~1,600 new sibling cards for my existing database. To avoid a massive backlog, I spent over two hours today clearing thousands of cards, hammering "Easy" on about 90% of them since I already knew the core vocabulary.

My settings:

• Daily new card limit: 25
• Sibling burying: All 3 options checked (Bury new/review/interday siblings)

My goal: I want to learn exactly 25 new words (notes) per day, but I also want to keep using all 3 card types for better retention.

My technical question:

When I study Card 1 of a new note today, Cards 2 and 3 get buried. When they unbury tomorrow, will they consume part of my 25 "New cards/day" limit?

If so, my pace will drop to ~8 new words per day (25/3), which breaks my textbook pace.

What I need to know:

How can I configure Anki (or adjust my workflow) to guarantee I introduce exactly 25 new notes daily, while ensuring that Cards 2 and 3 eventually show up without stealing the new-card slots from brand-new words?

If I messed up, sorry to myself. I'm just trying to be effective here, and having the three types of card seemed to be a great idea, but it didn't turn out as expected.

Thanks!

Hi all. I'm worried about a situation. Today has not been my day at a personal level and going through my decks after that has been a nightmare. It's taken me 71 minutes what I usually do in 40ish. I've been repeating the same words over and over again, and I feel like I've brute-forced them instead of learning them. I haven't had the feeling of disliking Anki - not even for a second, so I'm not worried about burning out. I feel the exact same as yesterday about the language I'm learning, I want to learn the vocab so bad!! What actually makes me scared is how days like this (which I usually don't have, but anyway) can affect my long-term learning.

Any experiences on this? Should I change anything on my workflow when ​something like this happens? Thanks :)

Hi everyone,

I’ve been using Anki daily for a couple of weeks to study a language (Hungarian, which is hard since its vocab is not related to any other language that I speak). It's my first time using Anki. My total collection has 2635 cards. I have 20 new cards per day enabled, and my new decks are strictly ordered. I actively introduce the upcoming decks as I progress.

To give you some context on my setup: I automated a script to scrape and organise vocabulary from Duolingo. I created a dedicated subdeck for every 5 units. Since there are 110 units in total, I have a massive skeleton of 22 subdecks (about 18 are completely untouched and unopened right now, while I actively work through 6 subdecks with ~500 young cards and 18 mature ones). I also create some subdecks from a textbook. Instead of dumping all 2600+ words into a single massive deck where vocabulary would pop up in a completely random order, I only activate and open the upcoming subdecks as I finish the previous ones. This allows me to follow the logical, progressive order of the Duolingo course and learn the vocabulary in structured, thematic blocks.

My study philosophy during reviews is brute force and extreme strictness:

• I almost never press "Easy" (only with words which are exactly the same in English).
• I only press "Good" if I genuinely, 100% know and type the answer without hesitation (no wrong diacritics allowed).
• If I struggle slightly, even if I get it right eventually, I don't hesitate to press "Hard" (2) or "Again" (1).

Because of this rigid criteria, my current daily stats look like this:

• Total reviews today: 347 cards in ~39 minutes (6.76s/card).
• Again rate today: 46.4% (161 times pressed "Again").
• True Retention (Young): Steady at around 61% - 65%.
• Median Ease: 230%.

Since I always manage to hit the "Congratulations" screen, and I feel the vocabulary is sticking, I'm tempted to trust the process. However, an Again rate of 46% feels crazy compared to what I read here. What would you tweak in my workflow to optimise my time without sacrificing my strict standards? So far I feel it's sustainable (the first decks only have a couple of words per day now), but I don't know what the future might look like.

Thanks!

EDIT: grammar.

Hi everyone! First-time poster here after lurking for ages.

I absolutely love languages. I tend to pick them up fairly easily—maybe not to a near-native level straight away, but I’m never afraid of speaking out loud and trying to communicate, which I think is my biggest strength. In fact, I managed to pass the Italian B2 exam without studying for a single minute, just by watching TV and listening to music (my native languages are Spanish and Catalan, so Italian wasn't a massive leap!).

Recently, I met someone who has become really important to me, and we're going to be such good friends. She’s Hungarian. I knew absolutely nothing in Hungarian, so the day after I got back from where we met, I downloaded the Complete Hungarian textbook and started the Duolingo course (yes, I know Duolingo won't make me fluent, I'm just using it as a supplement, smashing through one full unit a day while keeping my expectations realistic—yes, an entire unit on the path, not a level).

It’s a tough language due to its 18 cases, but I usually understand how a language works quite quickly, so grammar and vowel harmony don't scare me at all. However, vocabulary has always been my Achilles' heel. To tackle this, I'm creating Anki decks for every unit of the textbook and every 5 units of Duolingo. I'm currently spending about an hour a day on Anki.

So far so good after 15 days. But I’m scared of hitting a wall and losing momentum over the coming months. Motivation is really high. Learning Hungarian has become a big personal challenge, not just because I want to surprise her in her mother tongue the next time we meet, but also because tackling such a complex language feels like it’s unlocking parts of my brain I thought were long gone.

I would love to hear your tips, advice, or any words of wisdom from anyone who has tackled Hungarian (or any other non-Indo-European language) from scratch. How do you keep the vocabulary sticking without burning out?