Advice
Bf of 1 yr wants me & my daughters (9) to take the next step & move in. They were introduced around 5 months in. In that time there hasn’t been a whole lot of time spent all together. A few dinners/weekend trips & spending the night at his house a couple times. The most time together was last month for a week on a vacation with his family. During that time his family didn’t seem too interested in my daughters & made me feel like an inconvenience. My bf had multiple instances of getting frustrated/annoyed/impatient with them & appeared to try correcting normal child-behavior vs. actually wanting to bond. I have my daughters Tuesday-Saturday. To this day has kept most of our time together separate from them, never invites us all over or really do anything on my days I have them. When I tried bringing up my concern he says things like “I know I need to work on my patience I am trying & want them around & will treat them like my own. I like them we just have different parenting styles. I want us to be a family & I know this is the right move. Our bond will grow over time” & said something like “I’ve only had like 4-5 encounters with them it takes time” yet that ball was in his court this whole time to try & build a relationship with them. What bothers me more is that he had a previous relationship from I believe 2015-2019 or so, where there was another child (younger than mine) that he repeatedly says he was “like a father figure to” & she’s older now, they have eachother on social media & she even made a post about him on his bday featuring them when she was a child & seemed like she looked up to him in that way. I don’t understand why he seems to not show the same interest in mine & acts almost like he just tolerates them. He constantly tries to reassure me that he is completely ready & wanting to become a family & that he understands I am a package deal & he is fully committed to what that brings, but the action & interest shown says otherwise.