u/Live_Emergency_7168

All right, y'all.

I need some perspective. I am a sub (31, F) but I am not a girly girl. I don't do makeup. I don't do cute outfits. I'm a tomboy. I'm built like a viking shield maiden. My last Dom was really interested in super pretty made up girly girls and I did my best, but I just can't pretend to be someone I'm not 🤷‍♀️ i'm really wondering if I belong in this community at all? I cannot compete with camgirls 🙅‍♀️ i have a life and a full time job lol. I do bring some things to the table, like a cheerleader attitude and lots of love through acts of service, but how will anyone ever find that out if they can't get past the fact I look like princess fiona from Shrek 😭

All right, y'all.

I need some perspective. I am a sub (31, F) but I am not a girly girl. I don't do makeup. I don't do cute outfits. I'm a tomboy. I'm built like a viking shield maiden. My last Dom was really interested in super pretty made up girly girls and I did my best, but I just can't pretend to be someone I'm not 🤷‍♀️ i'm really wondering if I belong in this community at all? I cannot compete with camgirls 🙅‍♀️ i have a life and a full time job lol. I do bring some things to the table, like a cheerleader attitude and lots of love through acts of service, but how will anyone ever find that out if they can't get past the fact I look like princess fiona from Shrek 😭

I hit a roadblock trying to communicate my need for aftercare with my dom. We have talked about our different love languages, etc. After our sessions, we both pass out hard. I'm usually in the shower cleaning up and by the time I get out, he's asleep. To be fair, once I'm in the shower I'll stand there and zone out for like 20 min. It's not like my dom is flat out refusing aftercare, it just seems like he's really dragging his feet. I'm pretty new to the scene, so I guess I'm just inexperienced at communicating how I'm feeling and what I need? Can y'all give me some specific examples of aftercare that works for you?