A protagonist who lost his wife 8 years ago never cries in my novel. Not once. Here's how I wrote grief that actually feels real.
protagonist, Arjun, lost his wife Priya in 2081. My novel is set in 2089.
Eight years.
He has had eight years with this grief. It is not fresh. It is not dramatic.It is integrated.
The shape of his life has grown around an absence the way a tree grows around a wound.
his grief entirely through displacement behaviour and habit.He makes dal with patience.
Priya used to say you could tell everything about a person by whether they rushed the tempering.
He never rushes it.He is alone.He takes his time anyway.He accelerates the motorcycle
exactly the way she liked smooth, not abrupt.
She always noticed when he was impatient with the throttle.
She is gone.He is still smooth.
He names an underwater mountain
Priya's Ridge. 3,200 metres below the Pacific surface.No map will ever show it.Nobody will ever know.He does it anyway.He records the memory
of her laugh.Not her face.Not her words.The specific quality of her laugh in a small kitchen in Bhilai on an ordinary morning that meant nothing to history and everything to him.
He never cries in the novel.Not because he doesn't feel it.Because grief eight years old
doesn't weep.It lives in how you make dal. In how you accelerate.In what you name things when nobody is watching.