I’ve noticed that my central hair part is getting wider, with reduced hair density on both sides. I’m worried it could be female-pattern hair loss (FPHL).
Are there any products, oils, shampoos, supplements, or hair-care routines that actually helped reduce shedding or improve density?
Any recommendations or personal experiences would be really appreciated
So I gave my OA yesterday, on 11th August. For those who received the interview mail, how long did it take for you guys to receive it after the OA?
I’m honestly at a point where I don’t know what else to do, so I’m hoping people who’ve been through something similar can give me some practical advice.
I was in an LDR with my partner for about 1.5 years. They were also my best friend for around 2 years before we got into a relationship, and they were my first partner, so this person was a HUGE part of my life.
I recently found out that they had been emotionally cheating on me for almost the entire duration of our relationship.
They were talking, flirting and sexting with 4-5 other people throughout the relationship. They told me there was never anything physical involved, but honestly, looking back at everything now, there were situations where I feel like there was a high probability that something physical could have eventually happened if I hadn't found out.
D-day was around 5 months ago.
I blocked them after finding out, but I kept going back.
Whenever I was at my absolute lowest, I would end up reinitiating contact. And I think a huge part of that was because I wasn't just losing a partner. I felt like I was losing my best friend, the person I had built so much of my life around, and my first experience of love and a relationship.
Looking back, going back to them repeatedly was probably my biggest mistake.
Because now, I know for a fact that I do not want to reconcile.
They keep saying things like, "I'll change," "I'll do anything," "I'll prove it to you," etc. But I don't want them back. I don't even have some hidden part of me hoping they'll change and we'll get back together.
When I imagine reconciliation, all I feel is fear.
I loved and trusted this person so deeply. I genuinely believed in them. I ignored so many red flags because I trusted them and because I loved them.
And now I feel like the person I loved and the reality of who they were are two completely different things.
I don't think any amount of effort they put in now can erase what happened or give me back the version of myself that trusted them without constantly questioning everything.
I've finally blocked them again, and this time I've sworn to myself that I'm never going to contact them again.
It's been a week.
And I genuinely want to move on.
But I'm struggling so much with the triggers.
There are SO many things now that can send me spiralling.
For example, recently I saw that they had asked a junior from their college to message them on Reddit for some guidance. Yes, I was stalking them. I know I shouldn't have been doing it, and I swear I'm not going to do it again.
But seeing that completely destroyed me emotionally.
One of the people they cheated with was also a junior from their college, so my brain immediately went into overdrive.
I started imagining the same things happening all over again. I started thinking about them talking to this person, flirting with them, hiding things from me, etc.
And rationally, I KNOW I don't have any evidence that anything is happening.
But my brain doesn't care.
It sees a similar situation and immediately goes, "Here we go again."
That's the part I'm finding so difficult.
I don't want them back. I don't want to know what they're doing. I don't want to stalk them. I don't want to monitor their life. I don't want to spend the next year trying to figure out whether they're changing or whether they're doing the same things to someone else.
I just want to stop caring.
I want to stop having these emotional reactions.
For anyone who has been through something similar — especially being betrayed by someone you trusted deeply and then struggling with triggers afterwards:
How did you actually move on?
What helped you stop stalking/checking their socials?
What did you do when something triggered you?
How long did it realistically take before you started feeling like yourself again?
I know one week of true no-contact isn't a long time, but I really want this to be the final time.
I don't want them back.
I just want me back.
TL;DR: My LDR partner of 1.5 years emotionally cheated on me with 4-5 other people for most of our relationship. They were my first partner and best friend for years, so letting go has been incredibly difficult. D-day was 5 months ago, and I repeatedly went back to them when I was at my lowest, but I now know I don't want reconciliation. I've blocked them again and want permanent no-contact. The problem is that I'm constantly triggered and spiral when I see anything that reminds me of their cheating. Looking for practical advice on how to stop stalking/checking, deal with triggers, and genuinely move on, and how long it took others to feel okay again.