I [F18] needs advice on this guy [M19] and our ‘relationship’
I’ve been talking for this guy for the last few months, like we started getting to know each other during summer and things got serious pretty quickly. We kissed on the like 4th ‘date’ and obviously I liked it.
But as the relationship grows, he has asked me to be his real girlfriend but whenever I ask him if he’s sure he’s ready for that, he’ll always tell me; no, you’re right.
He has micro-cheated on me 3 times so far and each time I tell him I’m getting sick of it. I’m a caring girl and I have never cheated or micro-cheated during our whole talking stage and honestly, it makes me feel stupid and inexperienced (especially since he’s older than me). He has told me multiple times (after I found out he cheated) that I deserved better, that I looked pretty when I cried (because I did when I found out the second time) and that we should stop talking but he doesn’t want to leave me.
And I think the reason for that is because he knows that I’m not looking just for fun and I guess that’s rare for him? Because he’s been in like only real relationship and the rest was just for fun. But I feel like him keeping me as a safe option is very unfair and I feel like I’m stupid and dumb for waiting for him and being loyal. Plus, we mostly hang out at night. Like I sneak out for him and he does as-well but I don’t like that and he never makes the effort to hang out during the day. Though he used to play basketball with my little brother a lot (before he moved a little further away). So I’m just really mixed up
But even if I’m 18, I’m not looking to just have fun and I keep telling him that and each time he tells me; yes, I know don’t worry me too. I’m not here just for that. But most of the time when we see each other we end up doing things even tho sometimes it’s just kissing, he always wants to take it further even though sometimes I clearly set my boundaries and tell him no.
I’m tired of being disrespected but I feel attached to him and honestly, I’m not sure about what to do.
Obviously I know lots of people are going to tell me that I should end things but I don’t know if he’s being genuine about the whole not cheating anymore and becoming a serious thing (him and I) so I think it’s not that easy. Plus, maybe it’s summer and he just wants to have fun? While like keeping me..I don’t know, I feel like I sound dumb writing this text but I need someone to actually wake me up and be honest with me.