r/SituationshipAdvice

So to sum it up I was dating this guys 23M since 14 years old. During that relationship I was playing his wife at 15 taking care of everything, I found photos of other girls in his phone multiple times and never ever felt appreciated. Long story short we broke up last March and during that time I immediately started talking to 24M, he was the sweetest man to ever exist, however unfortunately I could not get over ex and ended up in a toxic cycle with 24M where he didn’t trust me (rightfully so). During this time original boy has swore up and down he changed and I do see it so much. But part of me just wants 24 year old but I can’t fathom leaving the relationship for good that I spent my entire teenage and what I’ve had of adulthood imagining a future with. I’m scared no matter what I’ll make the wrong decision. How do I figure out what’s best for me and if I truly should give ex another try or say screw it with 24m?

I (F18)met this guy (M19) at work, it was in a truely terrible restaurant. We got along from the minute we met, it was instant. I thought he was hot from the start. He's recently admitted the same. But he's a flirt. With everyone, and over the time we have known eachother he's shown more interest in everyone who isn't me.

I recently stopped working at this restaurant to focus on uni. I was out a few days ago, and got drunk. I ended up messaging him. And admitted all the feelings that hadn't been said. We talked and he claims to feel the same. But isn't acting or saying anything which proves that.

After the past few days I dont think he actually likes me, rather I think he just likes the attention. Whenever we speak, all he wants to hear is about how I like him, then refuses to say anything real back. It's looking one sided as shit but this just isn't what I expected.

I have been so put off by this but how do you go back on yourself after a week like this?

bro we started talking online we live legit 10mins apart he says he can see it going somewhere but he isnt that active WHATEVER i try sm to talk and keep a convo BECAUSE IM SO INTO HIM AND I WANT HIM SI BAD but convo dies again and again
p.s. it aint one sided cause we both swiped each other right so yea and he does find me cute but IDK WHAT TO DO I JS WANNA MEET ONCE but how do i start a convo everytine only for it to die

i feel like i should go confess directly but everytine i do that it doesnt work like i just cant do the hot and cold ghosting all that im not that person
pls help me people

I’ve been talking for this guy for the last few months, like we started getting to know each other during summer and things got serious pretty quickly. We kissed on the like 4th ‘date’ and obviously I liked it.

But as the relationship grows, he has asked me to be his real girlfriend but whenever I ask him if he’s sure he’s ready for that, he’ll always tell me; no, you’re right.

He has micro-cheated on me 3 times so far and each time I tell him I’m getting sick of it. I’m a caring girl and I have never cheated or micro-cheated during our whole talking stage and honestly, it makes me feel stupid and inexperienced (especially since he’s older than me). He has told me multiple times (after I found out he cheated) that I deserved better, that I looked pretty when I cried (because I did when I found out the second time) and that we should stop talking but he doesn’t want to leave me.

And I think the reason for that is because he knows that I’m not looking just for fun and I guess that’s rare for him? Because he’s been in like only real relationship and the rest was just for fun. But I feel like him keeping me as a safe option is very unfair and I feel like I’m stupid and dumb for waiting for him and being loyal. Plus, we mostly hang out at night. Like I sneak out for him and he does as-well but I don’t like that and he never makes the effort to hang out during the day. Though he used to play basketball with my little brother a lot (before he moved a little further away). So I’m just really mixed up

But even if I’m 18, I’m not looking to just have fun and I keep telling him that and each time he tells me; yes, I know don’t worry me too. I’m not here just for that. But most of the time when we see each other we end up doing things even tho sometimes it’s just kissing, he always wants to take it further even though sometimes I clearly set my boundaries and tell him no.

I’m tired of being disrespected but I feel attached to him and honestly, I’m not sure about what to do.

Obviously I know lots of people are going to tell me that I should end things but I don’t know if he’s being genuine about the whole not cheating anymore and becoming a serious thing (him and I) so I think it’s not that easy. Plus, maybe it’s summer and he just wants to have fun? While like keeping me..I don’t know, I feel like I sound dumb writing this text but I need someone to actually wake me up and be honest with me.