My mom put our family dog to sleep and didn’t tell me
Had this dog in our family since 2020. For many years it had been a small household, Me, my mom, and this dog.
Im in my 20s, I live here to mainly help care for my mom as she’s older, weak with illness, but more importantly I also take care of the family dog. And recently, it had been more and more he was spending time with me. However,
Today my mom asked me to wash all of the blankets in the house. Not just a few, but all, and she told me after I washed them, she would “bag them up and donate them to the spca”… strange I thought, but it was wholesome I believed. And just her donated heavy winter blankets.
Then I realized as I started the washing machine, with every single blanket in it, that this dog of ours, wouldn’t have any on the bed. So I jogged upstairs from the basement, looked around the house and nothing. I went all over looking for him. So I went and woke up my mom and asked her where she was she responded…
“He’s gone, they put him to sleep and turned him into ashes, he’s gone”. She told me it had been several days and she never planned to tell me.
Im in a severe state of shock and trauma and sadness. I can’t stop shaking from the amount of adrenaline and anger I felt. She told me she brought him in, just regular vet visit, they diagnosed him with something that needed surgery and they told my mom the surgery would be fatal anyways.
In just the past few weeks we had been playing with new toys, exploring outside, with all of that fun..he was just coming up to me in the past weeks with the hugest smile. Like the biggest smile I’ve ever seen a dog. I don’t think it was his time to go, but it’s a choice I can’t go back in time and change.
He just seemed happy finally. Finally seemed settled, and expecting more in life. And that’s what hurts the most, is I had so many more plans for us, so many adventures. Love you so much buddy.
I have a remaining dog, who’s only a few years old, and was raised in this household since she was a puppy with this now dead dog, as her pack mate. Now, My dog has consistently been whining, when passing by the spots in the house he’d usually be, she’s pacing in circles and she is very uninterested in food, play or cuddles. What do I do genuinely? This is extremely hard to experience.
Thank you for any advice.