u/Logical-Struggle1077

These are the things I’d wanna do with my bf.
- First kiss should either be on sunrise or sunset…
- Watch, Play, Read my favourite TV shows, RPG games, Mangas with him.
- Pillow Talk
- Go on a run
- Camping
- Watch Snowfall, Snow fight…
- Hot chocolate indoors and watching snowfall outside at night
- Star gazing and Auroras
- Bioluminescent Beach
- Lie on grass, Sleep under a tree
- Trip to these countries (Italy, Switzerland, Germany, France, Spain, Turkey and Northern Europe)

If y’all have any more ideas to suggest, plz do.
Sex comes along with it of course so I didn’t find it necessary to include.

I found out at the age of 4-5. Ye I know it’s kinda weird but ever since then I’ve always fantasised about them not in a sexual way but more like living, sleeping and eating with them e.g. RDJ was my celeb crush 9 years ago so I fantasised about him being my step father 😏

At puberty, I started imagining about some other things…😉

Btw My type is older men (45+) with stocky builds and greyish hairs/beard.

Let’s get some things clear first. Right now I’m living in a country where 🏳️‍🌈 is illegal so in 2 years time, I’m gonna be out of here. My question is for after that. I’m a virgin and once had a hookup but I found it awkward so I left midway before doing anything other than sucking his dih.

In future, when I move there, should I firstly go to the gay bars to find a hookup/download a hookup app.

Or look for a relationship, since I really want to be in one, find someone that I can look after and someone to look after me, someone to encourage me, provide me with warmth, someone who I can share my heart’s content with etc. This is because I mostly daydream and fantasise about having a guy who I’m comfortable with and his arms wrapped around me when watching something on the TV, cuddling on the bed and much more.

19M bottom/verse here and I can’t lie but whenever I see a guy in a tailored suit, that covers his protruding belly and showcases his nice bulge, butt and belly. I fall to my knees and want to suck them dry.

And when they sit and slightly open their legs a bit, WOOF, all of that pant fabric over that bulge. 😩

Mine (19m verse) are Nick Offerman and Russell Crowe.
Current Nick Offerman I’ll sleep with him all day any day.
Please someone find me his duplicate 😩✌️

19 M gay here fully outed to myself but no one else knows about this and I want it to remain that way. I have a lot of doubts regarding if I’ll get punished by Allah for pursuing this plan of mine (migrate to another country, leave family behind, find a partner and convert him, don’t ever tell my family about this ever.)

But the internal conflicts I have with myself is firstly if this is right or wrong, I just joined this sub so I didn’t read all of those sources but I think even after reading them, the doubt will remain. So if anyone can explain to me in the comments about this, please do in simple words and refer Quran and Hadith.

Second problem was that what will happen to my family, I deeply love my parents and my siblings. My mother especially is always asking me about which girl I like and always hinting about marrying me as soon as I finish my bachelor’s degree but I always lie to her and say that when I move to a different country, I’ll find a *girl* , convert her and marry her. But it’s partially true. My family never suspected me of being gay since I act straight and the concept of LGBT is like myth to them. They don’t think these feelings are natural and call it self imposed. I feel like a hypocrite whenever this topic gets started since I have to take their side on it which is condemning us. 😢

And btw I’m interested in older partner so what if they die before me. How will I spend the rest of my life?

Older guys usually look better with a softer, more balanced facial appearance instead of an overly sharp or chiseled one, fuller cheeks and face makes them cute. A naturally rounder face already helps, but even angular faces can look softer with a well maintained beard. The key is not letting the beard make the face look too long or narrow if it does, trimming it shorter or shaving it a bit usually looks better. For the head, shiny bald or crew cut or short trimmed hairs tend to look betta than long hairs. Overall, balance and softness (e.g. Russell Crowe) tend to look better than an overly chiseled look (e.g. Hernan Drago).

AND PLZ, if you can keep your hair/beard color as natural as possible (gray, golden, white, brown whatever) rather than dying it monthly to hide your age, DON’T.

One more thing would be your Moustache, usually I like them trimmed as the same length as the beard but sometimes if they are slightly longer and curved not like handle bars but minor curve then its hot too.

‘Big Guys’ but even if you’re not, A softer, fuller body type usually appears better too. Not obese or heavily overweight, just solid and balanced proportions like a stocky build, broad back, big arms, slight protruding belly, light chest hair, that kind of look. More “strong and comfy” than ultra shredded. It feels more natural and masculine than constantly grinding in the gym for a lean, super defined physique. Just staying healthy, eating well, and doing some light workouts is enough for that build.

How a guy acts matters too. Even if he has all those features, it’s personally a turn off for me if he acts overly feminine or too zesty/fruity. I’m more attracted to guys who come across as masculine, mature, calm, grounded, and comfortable in themselves. Even as a younger verse myself, I naturally act masc, so that energy is just what I connect with more.

And lastly the clothing -> flamboyant or shiny or anything that resembles feminine clothes, gross (kidding but you get my point).

Wear classic clothes, neutral colours, simple designs, tailored suits, Cotton T’s, tucked in shirts comboed with Jeans, Chinos or Dress Pants. A nice leather belt (not flashy, just simple). About piercings and jewelry, please keep it minimal. Act and dress classy.
Btw, A tailored suit with a tucked in shirt which shows the already protruding belly and a simple belt with a classic buckle is sooooooo fkn sexy.

As you might’ve noticed the pattern here: Natural, Balanced, Masculine, Classic and Simple >> Artificial, Over/under, Zesty/Fruity, Flashy. In my honest opinion.

That’s fully upto you though, since there will always be a category of people that’ll find you attractive.

If I find someone that fulfills 90% of these, which is possible, then I’m gonna spend a 1000 years no, an eternity with them 😉