r/LGBT_Muslims

Hey guys I’m feeling lonely and I’ve been feeling really ho—ny lately. My three female crushes are now in relationships and marriages and this all happened at once. It’s been months to years since I’ve felt lust and now I’ve been going through racism and personal problems online and my crushes are now with their husbands. This happened all at once. I’m literally about to act upon it and I’m so desperate. I’m a 23 y/o bi Muslim woman from the USA and I love fem4fem relationships. I want to be in bed with a woman so bad but I’m afraid to show my face in dating apps and the people in my town are so chopped. And when it comes to women I have a racial preference exclusively for women from the Middle East /North Africa/ south and west Asia and Latin America. So basically brown skinned women. I’m looking for someone 20-30 and who’s super attractive long brown hair and religion doesn’t matter. And the crazy part is all of my crushes are on straight women who are Muslim because they’re home countries have beautiful women and men. It’s so weird but when I’m around queer people they’re no attractive and are usually studs. Help . I’m also practicing and I believe in Allah SWT. My orientation is at conflict with my Muslim faith. I just want to be loved by someone but it’s 80% women 20% men. I cried for days from seeing my crushes weddings as I’m a Muslim woman.

Hi! I'm a 25-year-old Muslim Pakistani lesbian looking for a queer man interested in a lavender marriage. Ideally someone based in the UK (!!!!) and from a similar South Asian background.

I'm genuinely very easy-going and don't mind if you're seeing someone; I'm happy for us to be best friends first and foremost (and I'II 100% be your wingwoman).

A bit about me: I'm funny, crafty, love movie nights, travelling and enjoy being out in nature.

Please DM me or comment if you're in a similar situation

Today a lot of my family including myself are travelling from all across Texas to Cameron Tx to lay down our family matriarch, my Great Grandmother passed away a week ago today and today we lay her to rest. It’s just hitting me as we drive these two lane highways. I never got to meet my grandma, she died when my mom was a teen but her mom My Great Grandmother has always been there. I felt close to my grandma being around her but so blessed to have her around till I was 30. Please keep my family in your prayers I’d greatly appreciate that.

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I’m 22 years old and I believe in God. I recently came out to my family. I dream of having a boyfriend—someone who loves me deeply—and growing old with him. Despite that, I feel like I’ll end up accepting the religious celibacy I’m supposed to maintain. I don’t think I’ll be able to have sex or go on a date with a man, no matter how much I might like someone. You could call it destiny, or you could say these are self-imposed limitations resulting from religious indoctrination (even though no one in my family believes in God). I just hope that when I’m 50, for example, I’ll be satisfied with how my life has turned out and won’t have any regrets.

I am 30 M Pakistani born and raised in north west England looking for a marriage of convenience. Someone from England

I do not act on the feelings and will never intend to. I am not a perfect Muslim but my religious values and religion comes first always Alhamdulillah.

I do try and pray although I’m not 5x I do try my best! I keep all my fasts, give zakat, charity I just really try my best to be a good Muslim.

I am not looking for a cover up situation or anything like that.

I would like to be married in every sense of the word like best friends who can grow old and support each other and care for each other and we can even try to have children by natural means and even work to better our selves and control our desires Insha Allah.(children are not mandatory just something I’d be open to if you are)

Ideally would like someone younger than me under 5ft 6 and observes hijab. Someone who practices and doesn’t act on the desire.

I will have my own house and am willing to support the both of us if you do not wish to work.

Please feel free to ask any more questions as I was not to sure what to put in here.

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Hi everyone,

I’m looking to connect with someone who may be interested in a lavender marriage—a mutually beneficial, platonic marriage arrangement built on honesty, respect, and clear communication.

A few preferences upfront:

•	\*\*Jordanian or Palestinian only.\*\*

•	Age 30 or older.

•	Must be living outside Jordan, as I don’t plan on staying in Jordan long-term.

I’m looking for someone who is mature, kind, and values mutual understanding. Ideally, we’d build a genuine friendship and partnership while supporting each other in navigating family, cultural, or social expectations, with the freedom for both of us to live authentically.

If this sounds like something you’d be interested in, feel free to send me a message with a little about yourself, including your age, where you live, and what you’re looking for.

Looking forward to hearing from you.

Assalamualaikum. I am a lesbian (21) and have been in a relationship with my girlfriend since we were 13/14. We never ever thought of having a physical relationship but we did hug and sometimes she would kiss my cheek. We are currently doing long distance because of college. We have never lived together but we do want to.

I truly love this girl from the bottom of my heart. She makes me a better person and I do truly believe we were made for each other, Allah knows best. I want a life with her even if it means that my family won't ever know that she means more to me than just my best friend.

But the last time she visited, we got a bit physical with our affection and it's making me feel really guilty. Of course we WOULDN'T do any downstairs stuff. But doing research on zina and what counts as immoral conduct, it seems like we would have to get married.

All this time, I had been convincing myself that I would just love my girlfriend but never have a physical relationship. I mean both of us don't plan to do anything with our genitals because we don't even know if same-sex marriage is even a valid thing.

Yet I want to be intimate with her even though we won't be having textbook intercourse. And only this subreddit has recommended gay/lesbian people to get married to prevent immoral sexual conduct or zina or fahisha (still kinda confused about those terms)

But how would we even get married? Who would officiate? How will we even get witnesses? Do we need to have family members? None of our families know of our relationship and I doubt they will ever act as our witness. Also, we both are currently residing in the U.S. but in different states for our studies. We both are from Bangladesh and we plan to stay in the U.S. even after our studies.

Any advice is appreciated. I am just feeling a little lost. I don't want to displease my Lord but I do want a solution to my predicament with the woman that I love so much and want to have good times with without feeling guilty. Nearly all my prayers include begging Allah for letting me have an eternity with her even after we pass from this world.

I took just one look. I saw a simple question about transgender women, what could be wrong?

I then click on it and it’s filled with either okay comments or some of the most passively hateful things I’ve read in a muslin subreddit, all hidden under a seemingly false layer of concern.

As someone who thinks they could be trans, potentially, as well as being quran-only/centric, I was quite frankly— horrified at seeing it. I’m scared of the idea my very existence being a dirty secret on a theological level, and of the thought that it’ll be ‘cleansed’ out of me upon resurrected, as if trans is treated as being inherently false and satanic whisper.

How do you all find verses that like
Permit being transgender? The verse of 4:119 and other gendered verses seem to be being twisted in some form to enforce strict cis-heterosexuality on a theological level to the point it gives me a crisis.

What verses support transgender as a whole..?

Hey everyone, im a 29yo M from Lebanon, i dont know what am i , i dont like men but love shemales , but when im high i like everything but only in a threesome like 2 men and a shemale, ive never been analy penetrated by anyone except myself and my toys , im really confused what am i , am i gay or am i bisexual or what. Also i date women and have sex with them and i love it but when im very kinky ans horny , shemales is the way. So please help me understand

Hi, I'm a gay 25yo male from Syria, my family are strict when it comes to Islam and I'm sure that it won't be easy to tell them or even for them to accept me for who i am, and i don't wanna lose them in my life so I never told them anything and i keep pretending that i like girls and everything, i can't keep hiding it all the time because it is killing me slowly

Islam is a big part of my inner conflict between embracing my gay side and living the life i want or living as Islam says

I can't even have a boyfriend because when i do we talk about our future and i have nothing to say about it because even for me it's not clear and i don't know what i will do till then, so i ruined 2 relationships because of this reasone even tho i loved them and they still have a great place in my heart

I don't wanna lose my parents and don't wanna live alone

So I started looking for ways i can become straight and my therapist recommended me this book called (شفاء الحب) and said it helped alot of people, but after reading it nothing has changed so i feel worse than ever now and really wish someone can help me with this and tell me what i can do to keep my family and be able to live my life with someone that i can love and not be foced to live with under the name of marriage

Did anyone ever became straight after being gay? If there is any here can you tell me how aor maybe help me to choose what way to take

And please be logical and reasonable, i live in Islamic country with Muslim family, I'm a Muslim, tried to become an atheist befor but my heart didn't feel like it was the right thing to do so i got back to being a Muslim

(Don't tell me things like i need to accept myself and dont care about what people say because I can't, literally that means i have to replace all people in my life and I can't do that)

What is your reason for believing that islam is the truth? Why do you continue to believe and worship? Has there been a time that you didn't believe and then came back to religion?

My wife & I (2 non-religious women) live together in a house, and this week a young Muslim family is moving in next door! Any suggestions on how I can be neighborly, like a specific food or dessert I could drop off as a welcome? 😊

Mod, if this isn’t an appropriate place to ask feel free to delete my post.