u/Long-Letterhead-9133

I'm a Chinese American. I'm also gay. My traditional and close-minded parents don't know and only one of my siblings (both older) know. I'm in a serious relationship with my girlfriend and I love her very much.

I'm the youngest and I'll going to college next year. There have been lots of conversations in the family about what the future holds: where my parents will be moving, our future SOs, weddings, etc... Except my idea of my wedding does not align with theirs. They want a nice Chinese boy that comes from a good family, and I obviously do not. (GF is Black)

I don't know how, when, or if I'm even going to come out to my parents, but I believe that it is time (or at least before I go to college) to come out to my oldest sibling. I suspect that she suspects, but I'm really not sure because honestly how can anyone be sure about that? I just don't know what words to say. And even if I did, then she'd probably ask if I had a girlfriend and I don't really know how she'll feel about that! (practically helped my parents raise me lol) I don't think my parents would accept me if they knew I'm gay. I think she as a person would, but I'm not sure within the context of my family if that makes sense.

I also don't want my girlfriend to feel in between anything. I want everything to be fair to her.

I want to be with who I love, and I want it to be possible for me so badly.
I always get emotional when I think about this kind of stuff lol. Please share any advice, opinions, support, or experiences!

Demographics: female, Chinese, NJ noncompetitive public HS (imo), low income (<40k), ranking: 3/219 as of now

Intended major: Political Science

Academics: 3.8844 UW, 4.4115 W; APs: World History (4 freshman yr), Drawing (4 sophomore yr), 2D Design (4 junior yr), Bio (3 junior yr), US History (3 junior yr), Lang (4 junior yr), Calc AB (5 junior yr), planning to take Physics 1, Calc BC, Lit, and African American Studies senior year; SAT: 1510 superscore (730 RW, 780 M)

NHS, English Honor Society, Social Studies Honor Society, Mu Alpha Theta, NAHS

ECs:

1. Worked at family owned Chinese restaurant since middle school, taking ordered and packing them. Would go there after school to work and do homework when it wasn't busy
2. Student government, class treasurer during 9th, 10th, 11th. Student body officer for 12th
3. Founded a social justice club in 11th. Organized fundraisers for Venezuelan earthquake victims, ICE victims, etc
4. Participation in academic clubs: Academic Decathlon, county and state Math League
5. Invited by history teacher to represent school in a county wide think tank
6. Attended 2 state programs (one because I'm part of SGA, the other because I was chosen by my guidance counselor and I passed a interview)
7. District AI Integration committee. Invited by principal
8. JV Basketball, 9th-11th but tore ACL during junior yr so not sure if that counts
9. Spring Track and Field sophomore year
10. Tutored an elementary school student for $20/hr

Awards:

1. Scholastic Art and Writing Gold Key + Honorable Mention
2. AP Scholar w/ Distinction
3. CollegeBoard First Gen Award + School Award

Not sure if it counts as legacy but siblings attend/have attended Cornell and NYU. My stats are similar to theirs
I recently visited Princeton and Columbia, and I really loved it. I'm just not sure if I have the academic or extracurricular stats to compete with other applicants.

Am I a good applicant to be accepted into Questbridge NCM and of course the Ivies?

Let's say I won two awards, an Honorable mention and a First Place, in different years. Do I have to enter them separately or together so that I have more room to enter others?

Demographics: female, Chinese, NJ noncompetitive public HS (imo), low income (<40k), ranking: 3/219 as of now

Intended major: Political Science

Academics: 3.8844 UW, 4.4115 W; APs: World History (4 freshman yr), Drawing (4 sophomore yr), 2D Design (4 junior yr), Bio (3 junior yr), US History (3 junior yr), Lang (4 junior yr), Calc AB (5 junior yr), planning to take Physics 1, Calc BC, Lit, and African American Studies senior year; SAT: 1510 superscore (730 RW, 780 M)

NHS, English Honor Society, Social Studies Honor Society, Mu Alpha Theta, NAHS

ECs:

1. Worked at family owned Chinese restaurant since middle school, taking ordered and packing them. Would go there after school to work and do homework when it wasn't busy
2. Student government, class treasurer during 9th, 10th, 11th. Student body officer for 12th
3. Founded a social justice club in 11th. Organized fundraisers for Venezuelan earthquake victims, ICE victims, etc
4. Participation in academic clubs: Academic Decathlon, county and state Math League
5. Invited by history teacher to represent school in a county wide think tank
6. Attended 2 state programs (one because I'm part of SGA, the other because I was chosen by my guidance counselor and I passed a interview)
7. District AI Integration committee. Invited by principal
8. JV Basketball, 9th-11th but tore ACL during junior yr so not sure if that counts
9. Spring Track and Field sophomore year

Awards:

1. Scholastic Art and Writing Gold Key + Honorable Mention
2. AP Scholar w/ Distinction
3. CollegeBoard First Gen Award + School Award

Not sure if it counts as legacy but siblings attend/have attended Cornell and NYU. My stats are similar to theirs
I recently visited Princeton and Columbia, and I really loved it. I'm just not sure if I have the academic or extracurricular stats to compete with other applicants. Not really sure what to write my essays about. Could I get into ivies or t20s?? I'm going into senior year and am really dreading the application process...Any opinions and advice are highly appreciated