u/Longjumping_Echo_914

(25M) and my girlfriend (21F) are expecting a baby, but I'm unsure about my legal position and what I should be doing. We've been together for just under a year, and she became pregnant during the first month of our relationship, despite medical professionals previously telling me that it's extremely unlikely I'd be able to get someone pregnant. When she told me she was pregnant, I moved to her city because I wanted to support her in case the baby is mine. Since then, there have been a number of serious incidents that have made me question the relationship. She has repeatedly lied and manipulated situations, causing problems between me and my friends. One incident that really concerned me was when I confronted her about a lie and she threatened to kill herself and our unborn baby. More recently, I found out she has been found to have drugs in her system while pregnant. I've also been told that social services are going to be involved anyway because of her family background. On top of that, she told doctors that I'm not involved and that I shouldn't be put on the birth certificate, which isn't true. I've moved to be closer to her, attended appointments where I've been able to, and have tried to support her throughout the pregnancy. Because of everything that's happened, I'm most likely ending the relationship, but I don't want that to affect my rights if the baby is mine. My questions are: if I leave before the baby is born, what are my legal rights and responsibilities? Should I wait for a DNA test before agreeing to be named on the birth certificate? If social services become involved, how do I make sure they know I want to be involved with my child and that what she has told doctors isn't accurate? Given the concerns about her behaviour, the reported drug use during pregnancy, and social services already being involved, what are the realistic chances that I could end up being the baby's primary or sole carer if the child is mine? Is there anything I should be doing now to protect my legal position?

Note; She got drug tested by the Midwife.

Me 25M. Cant say anything more specific incase someone figures out whose account this is. My girlfriend is 21F.

I've been with my girlfriend for just under a year. She became pregnant during the first stages of our relationship, even though medical professionals had previously told me that it's extremely unlikely I'd be able to get someone pregnant.

When she told me she was pregnant, I moved to her city because I wanted to be there in case the baby is mine. Looking back, I think she may already have been showing concerning behaviour, but I didn't really notice at the time because I only saw her on weekends. I'm very career-focused, so we didn't spend every day together.

Since then, her behaviour has gone far beyond what I'd expect from normal pregnancy-related changes. She constantly lies, manipulates situations, and has caused problems between me and my friends.

One example that really shook me was when I confronted her after catching her in a lie. During the argument, she threatened to kill herself and the unborn baby (where past the stage where abortions are possible). She has also found to have drugs in her system while currently pregnant.

It's gotten to the point where I'm probably going to cut ties with her altogether. I don't even know if I want to find out whether the baby is mine because the situation has become so bad.

Hi,

25M Scouser in Sheffield. I moved up recently for work and I’m half nervous about being here. What is there to do around here, and are there any other Scousers or Evertonians up here?

Being up here has been a massive culture shock, including humour up here, which I’m still getting used to. Nice people though.