Another physician told me to lose weight - “it will help with IVF”
I see a cardiologist annually. For the last few years my weight has been on a steady increase. Some but not all can be attributed to IVF meds, since the trend started before I started my first ER.
I got pretty depressed after the second FET failed. I was eating my feelings a little. And the gym schedule is challenging for me because just when I get in a groove I have to stop for IVF. And for me at least getting going again has been tough.
Anyway I’m just here in a shame spiral over the doctor’s comments. Last year she told me to track my macros and I did. Today she looked at my data and said “I’d gain weight if I ate like that”. Oof.
She went on now for the second year in a row about how weight loss improves fertility. My IVF clinic has never once mentioned my weight. Ftr I’m at about 36.5 bmi and 40-45% body fat. I’ve gotten back into strength training and high protein diets, and did intermittent fasting and calorie cutting when not in an active ER or FET cycle.
I’m also confused about balancing weight loss with active IVF treatment. Since we want high quality eggs I am trying not to go into deficit.
I understand the cardiologist is doing her job. And she’s probably right about my macros - eating too many carbs. I tell my partner this but we keep having things like bread, noodles, pizza and fries. At the height of our IVF relationship strain we may need to start eating separate meals. Back to cooking for one?
It just hurts. She also had to mention that aside from her kids(!) getting ill she thinks IVF would be the worst thing to go through. Oh and that she has PCOS! It seemed like she was trying to soften the blow but honestly I wish she and every other non-RE would stop giving unsolicited fertility advice.