u/Lost-Blueberry-2641

Only child lang po ako. Hiwalay ang parents ko. Grew up with my paternal grandparents pero financially supported ng aking mother. May stroke si Papa ngayon. Buntis ako ngayon at EDD ko next week. Wala na rin kaming communication ni mother dahil hindi nya tanggap na buntis ako. (27y.o na me)

Itong pinsan ko po. Humingi sya ng tulong sa'kin na papaaralin sya ng college. Pumayag ako in a condition na sa state university sya mag-aral at para mabisita nya rin Papa nya na may stroke din (kapatid ng Papa ko).

Before pa 'yan sya mag-start ng college, pinagsabihan ko na sya na wag syang mag-gf unless financially stable na sya. Gusto ko lang i-instill sa utak nya na you know, bilang lalaki, mas magandang mag-girlfriend if may sarili ka talagang pera. Agree naman sya, sabi focus lang daw sa pag-aaral. At nakikita ko naman mga grades nya which is matataas din talaga.

May ate pala sya pero hindi ko alam how much salary non as a wfh employee na di ko rin alam if VA ba sya or call center agent. And again, Papa nila ay may stroke so walang work. Tas mother nila ay hindi ko rin alam kung nasaan at anong work kasi pag tinatanong ko pinsan ko sasabihin nya lang na wala silang contact (na feeling ko ayaw nya lang talagang sabihin sa'kin kasi di kami good terms ng mother nya).

Dati pa lang ine-encourage ko na pinsan ko na maghanap sya ng part-time job para may pandagdag sya sa mga gastusin nya sa school kasi HRM program nya at marami talaga silang pa-activities and expenses kahit nasa state university. Binibigyan ko sya ng allowance nya at dati ako ang nagbabayad ng dorm nya pero 'nong nasa 2nd year na sya, 'yung ate na nya ang pinapabayad ko (1,500/mo).

Ngayong magkaka-baby na ako, I gave them a heads up, silang magkakapatid na hindi ko maga-guarantee ang financial support ko sa pinsan ko nga starting on his 3rd year. Ini-encourage ko pa rin na ituloy ang pag-aaral kasi 2 years nalang at ga-graduate na. Sayang din. (Nong tinanong ko kasi sya last time ano gagawin nya if hindi ako makapag-support, sagot ba naman eh baka titigil sya at babalik sa trabaho). Since aware na rin ate nya sa magiging situation, kaya nya naman daw suportahan kapatid nya except sa internship kasi either Malaysia or sa Boracay daw 'yun pagka 4th year nila.

Anyway, ask ko lang if ano ang mararamdaman nyo? Ang concern ko kasi dito baka makabuntis 'tong pinsan ko na hindi pa naka-graduate ng college or baka naman hindi pa nakahanap ng work after college. Knowing his family situation, I thought magiging priority nya ang college degree nya, career and help his father na maka-recover.

Also, for me, he's still a baby boy T_T
He couldn't even manage to find a part-time job pero girlfriend, oo. T_T
Tas pag naubosan ng bigas, sa'kin manghihingi pambili. Huhu. Pano pa kaya 'yung pang-date nila....

or baka nagiging oa lang ako at overthinking kasi buntis hahahhshaha lmk ur opinions po. Thank u!🥹

Hello po, mommies. First time mom here. Nagkatrangkaso po ko dahil sa weather na ulan init tas kumakain pa ko ng cold desserts. Sabi naman ni OB, mag-water therapy daw muna ako kasi masakit lalamunan ko and I think ito talaga pinakadahilan.

Mainit po ang pakiramdam ko internally.
Tumutulo sipon ko na clear naman
May dry cough and itchy throat
Sobrang init ng mga mata
At parang mabigat ang ulo ko

May nakaranas po ba ng ganito sa inyo po?

Hello po, mga mommies. First time mom here. 27 yo.

Baka po meron dito sa inyo na nag-work before sa abroad tas umuwi ng Pinas para manganak po. Ask ko po sana about sa PhilHealth. Ano po paraan nyo para maka-less billing sa hospital lalo na't mas mataas na coverage ngayon ng PhilHealth? Does it matter po ba if OFW ang membership type or voluntary? Maga-apply sana ako for indigent din pero mukhang hindi ako eligible don since iche-check pala nila kung san kami nakatira (nagre-rent kami ng apartment na 8.5k/mo)

Aside PhilHealth po, inasikaso ko na rin SSS Maternity Benefit ko. EDD is May 28. Tas nakapag-contribute po ko ng 3k/mo from July - December 2025. Hoping na full 70k mare-received.

Thank you po sa magco-comment🙏

Hello po, mga mommies. First time mom here. EDD ko na po ngayong May 28 pero si partner nasa abroad pa kasi hindi sya pinapauwi ng amo nya.

Ask ko lang po if pwede bang ilagay name ng father sa birth cert ni baby kahit wala sya dito? Pero surname ko po ang ipapagamit ko kay baby kasi plano ko po syang dalhin sa abroad pag nag work ulit ako. Mas mabilis daw kasi syang mabigyan ng visa kapag under my surname tsaka hindi pa po kami kasal ni partner.

Thank you po sa magco-comment.

I want my husband to immediately resign from his work. There are hundreds of list to resign in that shithole.

Did not provide assistance in renewing his CPR ID
No days off (12PM - 1AM duty)!!!
2 weeks to 2 months delay of salary
Not allowed to request emergency leave, sick leave, etc.
Not hiring more people to avoid salary contribution
Forcing more tasks to one person (instead of hiring!!)
and more...

Also, is there anyone here who knows the process if we opt to get a lawyer? How does that work?

Thank you for commenting.

I want my husband to immediately resign from his work. There are hundreds of list to resign in that shithole.

Did not provide assistance in renewing his CPR ID
No days off
2 weeks to 2 months delay of salary
Not allowed to request emergency leave, sick leave, etc.
Not hiring more people to avoid salary contribution
Forcing more tasks to one person (instead of hiring!!)
and more...

Also, is there anyone here who knows the process if we opt to get a lawyer? How does that work?

Thank you for commenting.

My husband wanted to request an emergency leave to go back to his home country because I'm about to give birth any time of these days of May.

He already talked it out with his boss but unfortunately, he won't easily let him go in a condition the my husband needs to do a proper handover and delegation to kitchen staffs, which there are only 3 kitchen staff and 1 dishwasher. My husband is like a head chef and oversee the kitchen operations.

His boss doesn't want to hire more staff because there's not enough money for salary.

I helped him create a simplified handover documentation. Their restaurant is a Japanese fine dining restaurant. And honestly, the management is really toxic. The boss doesn't know how to properly run a restaurant (he has several failed restaurant business), all he know is copy menu items he sees online and asked kitchen staffs to copy it and does not align with their restaurant concept which is Japanese (he wants to add arabic food, although that was during ramadan).

My question is: How do you properly create a handover documentation? Because the boss wants a specific complete details from purchasing down to recipes and sauces ingredients and procedures, etc.

I helped him created the handover documentation, simplified it, but they're still not satisfied.

To be honest, the boss just don't want him to let go because he's the only person capable of supervising the restaurant's operation. Even if he already trained the kitchen staffs and did the handover and teach them what to do during his absence, the boss doesn't trust them at all.

I'm just feeling sad over his situation. It's suffocating having a workplace like that. Been telling him to resign there already but even resigning, the boss will make your life harder.

Please. I need help. The boss is not really that knowledgeable when it comes to the kitchen, he only has one accountant, and one HR. These three mf are feeling themselves like the top management but they don't know anything about kitchen.

1. Did not renew or provide assistance for the CPR ID
2. Take a hold of employee's passports
3. Always delayed salary; sometimes only give partial or basic salary
4. No day offs
5. Employee fainted? Who cares. Get back to work.
6. Terminate an employee cos no more salary to give? OK.
7. Force other tasks to only one person and don't want to hire? OK.
8. Oh? Your parents are in hospital? You need emergency leave? NOT OK.
9. OK. You can go emergency leave, but I will not give you your salary, it will be serve as security deposit so you will come back.

and 99 others....

What to do?

EDIT:

I would also like to mention that I already did the necessary handover to the staffs and taught them what they needed to do. The problem is that the boss do not trust the staffs to manage the operation. Apparently, he fully depends on me from A-Z of all the workings (even he himself said that that's why he can't let me go). I already suggested the best options we had before he terminated this one capable staff and now the ending, it's all on me. I did everything and had a long patient with him since I started working and this is how he repays me when I needed a help the most.

This boss of mine is Bahraini. He is very close-minded and selfish. It really doesn't matter to him if his staff has family problems or financial problems and need emergency leave. He would always has to had an upper hand before ang staff goes to emergency leave. He would always make things difficult to us even if one of staff already had comvulsions bcos of too much work, no proper rest and meals bcos of always delayed salary. He needs to understand that I am just a mere employee and not his partner of his business. I already did what needs to be done. This is his business, he should be the one managing it properly from hiring more people to avoid lack of manpower and to keep his business (it feels like it'll bankrupt anytime soon if having no customers continues).