This is for my mother Beth who needs a new kidney.
So, there is alot to her situation. My father, brother and I have been working and financially supporting her recovery from an illness that was slowly killing her by leaking ammonia from her liver. for some reason it took doctors a good portion of her life to fully identify the cause of all her issues. I spent my childhood thinking her sudden anger and bursts of violence were things she could control and she decided to take out on us. However, i stayed with my family in order to support them as best i could. even through all the fighting and depression, my brother and i worked hard to support her. money has flown out of all our pockets. then, last year, WE FINALLY GOT ANSWERS. her liver had slowly been poisoning her. we never got this as an answer from the original hospital! i don't really know why it took us so long to seek an out of town diagnosis. The first visit she paid to VCU gave us immediate answers. we had seen so many local doctors it'd make your head spin. the local ones were telling her she was too high risk, that she would die soon! she had spent my entire life having mood swings that left her feeling guilty and she hadn't gotten a chance to really live in a very long time. Now, VCU has been doing everything they can. we are getting good support. she has had 2 transplants. one is her liver, which is doing fine! the second, is her kidney from the same donor which unfortunately is not doing good. it's been rejected. She now has to be on dialysis every other day. she is waiting on another kidney donor right now.
The second thing in all this is that her home has suffered in her and my fathers absence. they spend the better part of three quarters of every year in the hospital while the other part doing their best to live some semblance of a life. Dad has fought tooth and nail for her since 1980! they were high school sweethearts and have spent every day together since. he has worked multiple jobs and given everything for her and us. he will never retire is what he's decided so that the money doesn't run out on us. But, it is. even with his, my brothers and my financial aid. it costs way too much. we have done our best to get her medical under control. we have financial aid, we have done everything we can but, it isn't enough. now, my childhood home has been unmonitored for a long time. it hasn't had anyone in it long enough to be properly maintained. it is a failing on our parts. i would never deny that. mom and dad though, they haven't had time to do anything other than try to preserve their life. this money is for the hope of giving them both a decade to live life again. to know what its like to be able to know that when she finally leaves the hospital, her and dad have a home to return to. I am willing to provide updates to anyone who asks. even if you haven't donated. I want to do what i can for my family.
Here's the link to the most important thing to me in my life:
You will also find a post that is a copy and pas of this on other r/ forms. if you have questions ill do my best to check in daily to both the fundraiser and reddit comments. thank you to anyone even willing to read this.