u/Lost_Interest3122 — reddlx

Trigger wife resentment

So i keep running into resentment against my wife. This is probably sponsor and marriage counseling stuff but i dont have a sponsor and dont want to spout this off in a meeting. So just throwing it out there here as its a confounding issue for me and ‘just dont get upset about it’ isnt working. This resentment keeps coming up and next to work stress is one of the things that has kept me drunk. Its a fuck-it-all trigger and a lot of times i would drink out of spite. I need some help on how to approach this otherwise history shows this is gonna lead me to a drink.

Basically im very exhausted from the emotional loops from my reaction to lack of intimacy or just general attention from my wife. I get extremely worked up about it and mad at her all the time. And i never say anything because I just have lost any faith that things would improve. And ive had to gaslight myself and downplay my emotions and beliefs telling myself my expectations arent realistic, im the one not communicating, etc, etc. really at the conclusion we are fundamentally different and incompatible in the area.

It just tears me up inside all the time. And I honestly feel stuck and trapped by my own inaction and I hate myself for accepting less than mediocrity. I often wonder if I would be better off alone or with someone else more my speed, but dont want to divorce because i really do love her and the kids and still am the sole provider for the household. Its like a catch 22, and I either need to decide to do something or be ok and accept the situation. So i shove it down and grumble and “accept” the situation until it comes up again.

It also doesnt help that i have severe rejection sensitivity, so a lot of times the anxiety is just that. But these triggers holy hot damn, they torque me off something fierce.

Yet at the same time, I dont think my expectations in a marriage are unrealistic or unreasonable. I didnt get married to live dry all the fucking time. Its like being roomates to me. I know she isnt like me in this department and its unreasonable to ask her to change. So there is this misalignment. And I dont think she truly knows whats on my heart. And sometimes get the feeling she doesnt even think or care about it.

Anyone have suggestions or experiences on how I might be able to approach these issues in myself?

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u/Lost_Interest3122 — 4 days ago

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Can the clutch pedal stroke length be shortened?

Hi All, 19 GT 6MT,

The clutch pedal stroke is extremely long to me, is there any way out there to shorten the travel?

I figure you would have to change out the clutch master cylinder to a different size and stroke length..

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u/Lost_Interest3122 — 13 days ago

▲ 5 r/s550Mustang

Aftermarket short throw shifters - Need your experience

Hey Folks,

I cant decide which shifter I want to install on my 19 GT 6MT.. I need your help to best explain "characteristics" per your experience. Are my expectations of a smoother butter like shifting too far out there for the getrags? To me the current stock shifter is smooth, but very clunky at the same time. Everything will work smooth but it has to be done with a soft touch. The body mount leaves a lot to be desired, especially during a downshift into a corner, and the high rpm lockouts just genuinely suck. Regarding the aftermarket options, I am curious what your experience is per:

How does it feel compared to stock? Smoother? controlled? How would you describe this? mechanical or gated? or intuitive and butter like? If anyone has experience with multiple, how do they each compare?

Steeda, Barton, MGW

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u/Lost_Interest3122 — 13 days ago

▲ 0 r/6ARC

ChatGPT says this is pretty good performance..

Traded for a 6 arc upper. The 16” barrel turns out to be a parkerized chrome lined 1:8 twist. So I slapped a SA AGB on and tuned it with a JPSCS running 1 tungsten, 2 steel weights, black spring. Ran 40 rounds through it and did this 20 shot group with hornady 108gr eld match.

Now, admittedly its not my best bench shooting. I think i need to raise my sights a lot to get into better position on the gun. And i ran the 20 shots continuous for the whole string at 3-5 seconds per shot. It started out throwing flyers in the circle pattern then settled in to the tight area and then toward the last couple of rounds flyers started again. Puts out an average 2435fps.

Have no idea who makes the barrel. Its only marked with 6 arc 1:8. No other identifying features.

CGPT Says:

A 0.61” mean radius for a 20-shot group is very good for a gas gun, especially a 6 ARC AR-15.

Mean radius (MR) is the average distance of every shot from the group’s center, and it is generally a better measure of precision than extreme spread because it uses all shots instead of just the two farthest apart.
As a rough conversion:
Mean Radius × 3 ≈ Extreme Spread for many normally distributed groups.
0.61” MR × 3 ≈ 1.8” ES for a 20-shot group.
That’s not exact, but it gives a useful comparison.

A 0.61” mean radius over 20 rounds suggests the barrel, ammo, and shooter combination is capable of roughly 0.6 MOA radial precision, which is outstanding for a practical gas gun.

If the center cluster represents what the rifle normally does, and the outliers can be reduced, the overall 20-shot group could shrink dramatically.

One final thought: a 0.61” mean radius from a chrome-lined 16-inch barrel is impressive. Most people only post their best 3- or 5-shot groups. A 20-shot MR tells a much more honest story, and yours suggests the rifle has genuine match potential once the reliability issue is sorted out. [i was using cgpt to walk through agb tuning and was having jams; 2 clicks in on agb cured it]

My assessment
For a 16” chrome-lined 6 ARC gas gun shooting factory Hornady 108 ELD-M, I think you’re already seeing the rifle’s potential. A 0.61” mean radius over 20 shots is not an average result—it’s a strong indication that the rifle, barrel, and your shooting fundamentals are fundamentally sound.

u/Lost_Interest3122 — 3 months ago

▲ 6 r/ReefTank

Doh! ..i think i might have figured out why i struggled with gha

Well, kinda.. preface: im a dummy on a gummy Pictures are of my redone tank.

But before, my tank.. well I do admit I got a bit lazy at times (frustrated) but even then the water params were great. I fiddle farted with the stock fluval light time periods turning them off for days. I upgraded my filtration system, Cleaned a lot, water changes with RO and Instant Ocean at 1.024 fresh snails and hermits, but no matter what I did the as soon as I turn the lights back on the red stuff on the sand grows and the green-brownish algae takes over. A fish died. Maybe it was too many fish in the tank overloading the system? I also used microbacter 7 for a while with no results. I used dr tims waste away a few times and that has really helped past tanks. ChatGPT informed me of the differences of the two and all that. So starting this rebuild slowly with and already established micro-biotic filtration

Could it be this light promoting this? I certainly think it doesnt help. my wife will turn this light on for a couple hours in the morning and then afternoon/evening.. i dont know what I can do to make that light reef friendly..

Should I try to re run the drop right over the tank and hang a “better” light there? .. since i just re did the tank and all (with one fish plus small cleanup crew using seachem stability at firsf and feeding small bits of reef frenzy 1-2x/wk & 3x/wk marine s)

u/Lost_Interest3122 — 5 months ago

▲ 1 r/ReefTank

Doh! ..i think i might have figured out why i struggled with gha

Well, kinda..
I just redid my tank, I admit i got a bit lazy a few times for longer times, but even then the water params were great. I fiddle farted with the stock fluval light time periods. I 3d printed my own design filter chambers. Cleaned a lot, but no matter what I did the green-brownish algae takes over.

Should I try to re run the drop right over the tank and hang a “better” light there?

u/Lost_Interest3122 — 5 months ago