u/Loud-Air-1323

I wanted to make this post to hear everyone’s opinions and views on this.

So I am in my early 20s and I’m looking to get married within the next 1-3 years. I’ve been living alone since I was 19 and I’ve never realised this, but I really struggle to clean. A lot of my friends have OCD and are clean freaks and I’m not sure whether I can keep up to their standard of cleanliness. I’m worrying because what if I can’t get married due to this issue that I have?

I can stay on top of everything else, like presenting myself well, going to the gym, cooking, praying, Pilates, hair and makeup - etc and I have a good social life. I’d like to think that I’m empathetic and can be a good/ loyal wife as a partner- but, I’m just really insecure about my tidying up and general cleaning. I have a ‘type B’ personality, and I’m in the process of being diagnosed with inattentive ADHD, but I’m really scared that this would be a huge issue.

I get a lot of attention in public in terms of my looks, but I usually avoid speaking to men because I’d rather wait for the right person to come at the right time. I know that my cleaning is a huge red flag, but I just really hate cleaning, I’ve hated it since I was young.

FYI I do tidy up and clean on a basic level, and try to make sure to keep on top of it BUT I just Can’t stand it. The dusting, picking up all these little bits and bobs from the floor, bleaching everything 24/7, it’s too overwhelming. I KNOW that I’d need a professional cleaner or something, but will this stop me from finding a good spouse :/

I wanted to make this post to hear everyone’s opinions and views on this.

So I am in my early 20s and I’m looking to get married within the next 1-3 years. I’ve been living alone since I was 19 and I’ve never realised this, but I really struggle to clean. A lot of my friends have OCD and are clean freaks and I’m not sure whether I can keep up to their standard of cleanliness. I’m worrying because what if I can’t get married due to this issue that I have?

I can stay on top of everything else, like presenting myself well, going to the gym, cooking, praying, Pilates, hair and makeup - etc and I have a good social life. I’d like to think that I’m empathetic and can be a good/ loyal wife as a partner- but, I’m just really insecure about my tidying up and general cleaning. I have a ‘type B’ personality, and I’m in the process of being diagnosed with inattentive ADHD, but I’m really scared that this would be a huge issue.

I get a lot of attention in public in terms of my looks, but I usually avoid speaking to men because I’d rather wait for the right person to come at the right time. I know that my cleaning is a huge red flag, but I just really hate cleaning, I’ve hated it since I was young.

FYI I do tidy up and clean on a basic level, and try to make sure to keep on top of it BUT I just Can’t stand it. The dusting, picking up all these little bits and bobs from the floor, bleaching everything 24/7, it’s too overwhelming. I KNOW that I’d need a professional cleaner or something, but will this stop me from finding a good spouse :/

How do single parents survive managing a high paying career/job along with managing a child?

I’ve got 1 year to plan everything before I move to the area, which I’m looking to be based in. But as a single parent, how do people manage raising their child? teaching them about Islam, managing the work pressure, maintaining myself AND a whole house?

I’ve considered hiring a cleaner for the house, and potentially a baby sitter for the child, but I’m not sure what else I can do to make my career work along side being a mother…

FYI the father is not involved with the child’s life whatsoever, and my child is stating school in September.

What advice would you give?