Really tired of my relationship
I (18F) have been dating my boyfriend (21M) since December 2025. During the first month he was very affectionate, texted daily, and seemed genuinely interested. After that, things started feeling one-sided. I was usually the one texting first, double/triple texting, and he'd often reply hours later.
He said he was busy studying because of poor grades, then during my exams he said he was giving me space and that we'd spend more time together afterward. That never happened. We don't meet much because of college, so texting is our main way of staying connected.
Recently he's been staying with relatives and says he's too busy to talk. I would've been okay with even one text a day, but he once went over 24 hours without replying when I had told him I wasn't feeling well. I got upset and blocked him, then unblocked him two days later because my birthday was coming up.
He forgot my birthday completely. When I confronted him, he only said "sorry, it's my mistake." He didn't even wish me until my friend told him how upset I was. He later told my friend that he's struggling with his grades, isn't feeling well, and doesn't feel like talking to anyone.
I tried asking him to open up and told him I'd support him, but he refused to talk about it. Whenever I tell him I'm hurt or upset, he mostly ignores it instead of addressing it.
I'm confused. Is he genuinely going through a difficult time, or is this just an excuse? Can someone love you and still put in this little effort? Should I keep giving him time or end the relationship?
Any advice would be appreciated. ❤️