My wife is threatening to leave me if I don’t join the military.
My wife and I have been together for 7 years. Got married back in April. I’ve been struggling looking for a career for sometime now and I want to go into the trades. I used to have a job installing motorized awnings on peoples homes but unfortunately the company went out of business and I was out of a job pretty quickly. At the time we had just moved into a rental home and I needed to get a job quickly to help pay the bills. So I got a job as a server. It’s not a glamorous job but it’s helping pay the bills. Cut to now. She just opened a taekwondo school with her father. Now I’m no business major but I know how hard it is to make a profit in that industry. We had the discussion a few times that maybe we should wait to open this school until I have a more stable job but she insisted to open it now. When asked how she’s going supplement her side of our income, she said she would DoorDash, do care now or get a part time job to pay her half of the bills while she works on the business on the side. Her father is convinced that he’s made a fool proof business plan to where she’d be making profit in a few months. So far there hasn’t been any profit and I was told that now I have to pay for all of our bills. She hasn’t done DoorDash or care now at all. I have. A few weeks ago she brings up the military. I genuinely gave it some thought. She asked her dad, who was a veteran in the South African military, to go to the recruiting office with me. I asked my questions and gave it some genuine thought went to the air force as well. After it was over he tells me, if I was you I would’ve signed up right then. But in my gut I just had the feeling that it wasn’t for me. I wanted to go to trade school. I tell my wife I’m thinking of going to trade school she says who’s gonna pay for it? I said my parents said they would loan me the money. She responds with, your parents can’t fund your life; while simultaneously forgetting the fact her father is funding the entire gym for her. She hit me today with an ultimatum, saying join the service or I’m out. Help?