Wedding bigger than what I wanted
Honestly, I just need to bitch to strangers on the internet who don't know me
Me and SO got engaged last fall and started planning our wedding in January. We wanted something small in Italy, so we put feelers out on who would be able to attend in July. We had about a solid 20 people end of January who were excited and confirmed that they intended on going. That was good for us and we confirmed with the AirBNB that they would be okay with us hosting a dinner at the villa we rented. Since then, we've had a couple unexpected guests invite themselves (like my SO grandparents) who we couldn't exactly tell no and have just decided to expand the guest count.
I had originally asked two of my close girlfriends if they would be able to attend and one of them already had family obligations that week, so she said she could not attend and the other one chose not to attend because the other one was not going. Which I totally get, I would never expect someone to travel alone abroad for my wedding. Recently, the first friend talked to some of the other people attending and decided she could miss her family obligations after all, so now, a month and a half before the wedding, she is coming. Then, a couple days later, get a text from the other friend that she is coming now that the other friend is. I am very annoyed by this.
There's the obvious added financial cost, as since we had a smaller guest list, we opted for more extravagant events and catering and then there is the stress of maybe the AirBNB not being okay with the event.
I think I’m more annoyed that it didn’t seem important to them until they heard from other people how fun the wedding was going to be. Sure, other people were added to the guest list, but because they genuinely wanted to go, not because they heard how fun it was going to be (who knows, it may not even be fun lol). It makes me want to sit them ALLL the way at the end of the table.
Idk, I'm probably overreacting. What do you think? Agree or tell me to get over it lol
Edit: thanks for all the input! Sometimes it’s just good to vent. The Grandparents inviting themselves was very annoying, but we just chose the path of least resistance and accepted it. When it’s all said and done, I know it won’t even matter and everything will be fine.
They’re still getting sat at the end of the table though.