u/Lucky_Principle_819

For context me (20F) and my husband (28M) recently gave birth to a beautiful baby girl, and told the family (before hand obviously) and when I gave birth. But as of now, my milk hasn’t come in yet, and with stubbornness of my own I told my mother in law(no age required) this and have kept it a bit private.

However, his cousin (34F) came to know this and posted to social media that I had trouble lactating at the moment during the first few weeks and that “formula is poison” and I was feeding my baby “poison”, I was a “bad mother” with some agreeing to it, because of their beliefs. Honestly when I saw that post, I cried, not because it was embarrassing but because I couldn’t feed my baby from me, and that’s already embarrassing enough. But then I felt anger because how did she think she is, bringing up that, (following bits of information is relevant to it) she is 34, a virgin, has a whole “pick me girl” facade, raging adhd, never had a bf from what I know, and VERY ONLINE.

So I called her up morning after the post, a few days after birth, to have lunch, when about a few seconds into casual conversation mid meal, I quietly brought up how if she wants to make a smear campaign about me I’d rather her tell me first, to which she started telling me all this nonsense she knows nothing about in regards to diets and motherhood. In response I interrupted her and told her, that she had no place to blast me on the internet (Facebook) of all places, and naturally I brought up her being a virgin and shaming her BP, for her ideologies of motherhood and me not being able to lactate, being contradicting to what she is herself, and no man would want her because of her illness and age. She ran out crying, crying wolf to my husbands family and acting the victim that I was being harsh because she’s waiting for the right man and all this bs.

My husband agrees her post was unacceptable, but I also know I crossed a line with the personal insults. AITA?