u/LumpyTown4103

I’m 27F, and this is an last n final update to the situationship breakup I posted before. I think I’m finally coming down from the emotional crash. After six months of talking, she reached out saying she made sure to wake up early just to catch me because she wanted us to hang out. We finally did one of the activities we’d talked about since we met—we went to an escape room, had a great time, and even won. On the drive home, I jokingly asked, “So what was today for? Were you trying to savor something?” She immediately became irritated and defensive. When she asked if I meant “savoring the connection,” I admitted that I really liked what we had. From that moment everything spiraled. I was accused of having an attitude, yelled at, insulted, and told that because I spend so much time in bed, I’d end up begging people to love me and no one ever would. The irony is that she was the one who reached out to spend time with me. She begged me in the past not to block her because she thought blocking was childish, yet she ended up blocking me anyway. Now that I’ve finally blocked her to protect my own peace, she’s calling me from No Caller ID and different numbers just to call me a bitch and threaten to fight me. I genuinely don’t understand what kind of person says they care about you one minute and then goes out of their way to intimidate and degrade you the next.

What hurts the most is that this is the second woman this year I’ve cared deeply about who has repeated the same cycle. Every time I tried to walk away after being disrespected, they fought to keep me around, acted loving for a while, and then the insults, disrespect, and emotional volatility returned. This woman spent three days straight with her friends, called me every night saying she missed me, and then the one day we finally spent together ended with me being degraded over a harmless comment. During one of the hardest periods of my life, when a medical complication left me unable to walk, sit up, or even sleep on my side for months, these were the same people who showed me kindness. It’s painful to accept that they’re also the same people who eventually made me question my worth. I never asked for perfection. I even told both of them that if they found someone else or wanted something different, I’d rather they just be honest than stay and slowly tear me down. Instead, I was met with broken promises, disrespect, and now harassment simply because I chose to walk away. I’m heartbroken that months of fighting to keep these connections alive ended with us becoming strangers, but I’m trying not to let these experiences convince me that this is what love is supposed to look like. I still want to believe that one day I’ll find people who communicate instead of insult, respect boundaries instead of punishing them, and fight for the relationship with kindness instead of trying to win through fear, manipulation, or disrespect.
Really need the older lesbian to shine some wisdom on me cuz I feel like doormat.

I (27F) was in a 6-month situationship with a 26F who treated me like a partner in many ways. She cared for me while I was recovering from a serious medical issue, introduced me to her family, talked about us like “two moms,” legit playing house, her mom wanted mt number and told me she had feelings for me on mutiple ocassions, was always pushing for I like you, I love you, daytime hang outs, public dates, pda,gift giving ,etc. I never intended to go anything farther then hook up buddies but she kept pushing for more and now we made it to this point we’re my feelings have grown more then I could imagine. But whenever I asked what we were, she gave conflicting answers, saying she wanted a relationship, a situationship, and friendship all at once. She also admitted her plan was to sleep with me until she found someone else, which left me feeling hurt, confused, and emotionally used. Even after seeing me cry, apologizing, and saying she loved me, she later admitted she didn’t mean it. Since then, we’ve taken some space, but she continues reaching out, mainly to hook up, while I’ve realized the emotional trust is gone. I grow super emotional after sleeping together and crying to her that fact it will never be that?

How do I deal with a situationship breakup when I know walking away is the right choice, but I’m still grieving the person I thought she was? I don’t think I can go back to being casual because the emotional connection is too strong, and the mixed signals have left me exhausted. What’s the healthiest way to let go, heal from this, and move on when the other person doesn’t seem willing to let the connection end?

Is it normal for someone you been exclusively talking to for 6 months to still be saying i didnt except to like you this much, i thought you was such a geek.

we known of each other on snapchat for 7 years and it was a dating app that brought us together. And honestly we started off rocky but we had more talks, more conversations and started to click. I just sometimes find it odd that she still is amazed or shocked that we made it this far but i also gagged everytime when we both our in la-la land and then she hits me with reality saying, " but we not together." She doesnt want to put a label on us but we legit do everything in a regular gay relationship. 6 months in and she still carries my groceries up stairs, she never lets me carry anything heavy, she always has me being passenger princess, she always cooking for me , buying me food, she very good at reassuring me when i least excepted it, she speaks alot of positive affirmations to me ,the chemistry is amazing ( sometimes it feels like she reading my mind) , she a big gift giver, and she legit everything. In my past lesbian relationships, i didnt even get half of this but unfortunately she makes it known at the most random times ,she sees herself marrying a man, if the right one finds her ,but she not looking at the moment (her words). And it does bother me, that she wants to just stay in a situationship while treating me like a queen. She been in many girl relationships before but she always tells me she didnt do as much with them ,as she does with me. She would tell me she would never sleep at there house every night like she does with me or be cooking them food every day like she does me , or taken a shower together has never cross her mind. and jeez i be blushing hard , but i cant understand why we cant make things official. Highkey, im ready to end it all (breakup) just for the label bcuz i feel like im being played. Like my fantasy gets shatter everytime she says i dont want to make you my official girlfriend. especially when she says , she still like men bcuz what am i ? A placeholder? She amazing but i just want to know she mine and im being dramatic ? is this normal for lesbian couple for a bisexual to just want a situationship ? Is she a redflag?

This article is bout my experience with 2 women I’m seeing at the moment. I’m 26F , and I ment 29F on a dating app , we started off rough but we’re going on 6 months for a situationship and I talking to a 26 F and we also met on a dating site ( had each other on social media for 7 years ) we also started out rough but we grown closer for 5 months now (also I’m a situationship), they both know of each other and had to come together to take turns taking care of me when a doctor poke a nerved in my spine and left me bedridden for 3 months . TIl this day I’m still dealing with issues but anyways…now tht I’m recovering and have the energy to actually hang out and do stuff , I have seem both women grow upset with me.

29F kept telling me to get rid of 26F meanwhile 29F lived in another state and wouldn’t make time to come visit me , she always had an excuse and would hate it when I told her I was hanging out with me friends. She made up for it but sending me money all the time but then one day she came to my house on mother day , we agrued up and down and then she physically fought. (She threw my off the bed and started kicking me and I started choking her ) the next week she ended up going on vacation and the whole time she was on vacation she was calling me complaining tht I had someone in my bed I was a whore blah blah. I always told her tht we’re friends n u don’t come and see me anyway so what the problem. ……

Meanwhile 26F she bisexual, lives 5minites from my
House and we hang out almost everyday until 2 weeks ago , I asked her for space bcuz I wanted to get back to my routine and taken my school studies studies seriously , n she told me she wants me to go find other connections. I told her I’m not interested in tht but I will. N then the next day we were having dinner and she told me she wants to explore other people and I said okay , who the new girl and then she blew up at me as if I did something . She told me she has deep feelings for me but she wants to explore other people and her exact words were “imma fuck you when I want to , and when I don’t , I don’t. When I find a new connection I’m going to stop fucking you. Sometimes you have to accept reality ” N I was confused. It impossible to have a mature conversation at tht point . So I left It alone til the next day came , we were watching our show n she said it again , I want to fuck other people, but I like you deeply and I told her tht idc if you want to fuck other people but you have to be okay with me walking away if you do. You don’t get to eat your cake and have it too especially ion want no stds. And then she started calling me childish for liking to walk away from stuff and then blew up saying she wanted to fight me, tht my coochie stank, thts why ur mom doesn’t love you , just taking everything I told her about me after 5 months and using it to insult me.

I wanted to take 4 days away from these crazy women cuz idk why everyone mad and even if you are you don’t need to put your hands on me nor disrespect me . ..it was 1 day and 8
9 hours when the shocking were calling me at the same time. 26F wanted me to come see her at midnight and 29F wanted to talk to me bout her cousins drama, mean while these women don’t feel like they owe me an apology , they just wanna carry on like shit been good. My feelings are OD hurt . Meanwhile none of them want a serious relationship. 26F doesn’t even know she likes girls , as she has told me she taken a break from men right now.

Like is this normal with the lesbian situationship?

26F I was dating a 26F girl for 3 weeks before I broke up with her due to her complaining that she wanted space but would still come and see me everyday after work. For context, I had a procedure done on my back that left me bedridden for 2 months now and she would come everyday to help me. I would tell her everyday bcuz our relationships was so fresh that she should go be with her friends bcuz these pills are gunna knock me out anyway. She insist she would stay to help me. Watch over me sleep , she would buy me food everyday and we just vibes out. But then she kept complaining that I was holding her back emotionally from being with her friends and one night , she brought her friend to my home and threatened to fight me, and I told her I have a back problem ,what the point of all of this . The altercation went from zero to 100 and I had no idea as to why. So I broke up with her and told her that her anger and the way she handle petty conflict was too much for me. She came back a week later and decided to say sorry by buying me food and eating the taco (what can I say I’m easy 🤷🏽‍♀️ lol) and things went back to normal until another week later she was complaining to me that she felt that her feelings were being invalidate by me and I don’t take time to do anything for her . And I told her I have a back problem so I can’t even do the things I want for myself right now. And for some reason she just didn’t want to understand that .

Now it Monday (4/27) and she blowing up my phone yelling at me bout how she wants her package back and I didn’t know what she was talking bout (it 8am in the morning) , she ended up driving to my house and waited for me to come downstairs at 11am and started searching my car for this”package” . I told to calm down and let’s talk bout this and that’s when I see she brought a friend and the friend said if I want things to get crazy , it gunna get crazy. N I’m tryna talk to my ex and my ex is telling me she gunna slap me and twirl me like pretzel if I don’t come correct. She eventually checks her phone and says ya I know you don’t got my package but I will be back for it. She leaves. 2 hours go by and she says I can have the package brokey. And I later find out from a late night phone call from her that the package was gift that she sent to my house when we were together and it now arriving to my house but her friend in the car convinced her to let me keep.

I do feel that our relationship ended prematurely and tbh I never seen this type of anger/intimidation ever! I never seen someone be so quick to give mad at something like this bcuz I’ve seen her control her anger and we talked out things. Most of our petty arguments were suppose to be handle 1v1 but for some reason she wanted 2v1 with not talking involved. And sighhh I hate to say it but how do I work with angry person , I’m basically handicapp rn and idk how you can be so understanding in the beginning and so caring and now just so angry ..it hasn’t even been 2 months yet ? And when we got along , we got along very well. She just had these random moments

I’m at a completely lost for words, since March seventh of having the spinal tap done to now almost being in May I have still not gotten any answers about how long this recovery process is supposed to go. I’ve been back to the ER 3 times due to the excruciating pain and I’ve been given morphine and many muscle relaxers, I’ve tooken multiple MRI, CAT scan, CT scan, x-ray ultrasound of my back and every test has came back with nothing wrong and I still haven’t seen the Doctor Who has initially did the procedure on my back. starting of last week I finally met with a different PCP and the lady heard me out and said that she was going to give me Percocets for my pain. I told her that I still cannot bend over ,lay on my side or on my stomach without being in a lot of pain. I’m starting to have a lot of nerve pain that I can feel wrap around my spine going up my upper back .

I still haven’t been able to work , I still can’t do my daily tasks such as cleaning my room ,doing my laundry, showering to my full capacity or even trying to sit in a car for more than 20 minutes. I’ve even gone the extra mile of using a waist trainer to wrap around my stomach in order to help me drive from location to location.

My quality of life has gone down so much I was hoping that my family would be here to support me and they rather telling me that I am a grown-up that needs to figure things out for myself. The only good thing about this Spinal Tap is that my friends have really came and showed me overflowing amounts of support and love watching over me as I’m sleeping taking these medications dat in n day out bringing me food ,checking in before they go to work and after work, doing their best to make me laugh and hearing me out when I’m having a frustrating moment a.k.a. tantrum due to me lying on my back for 24 hours out of the day , being in and out of sleep due to the muscle relaxer.

Up til now my doctors haven’t even thought of given me a therapist through all this. I do have PT but moving , twisting, bending,hurts ALOT , the only relief I get is standing and walk or lying completely flat with no pillow. I’m sick n tired. How are yall healing within 2-5 days ? (May the ER doctor poked me in my back 3x while I was sitting up ,lean over a table)