I have gotten so good at being single that I am literally undatable now
(24f) i'm posting this because i think i've actually broken my own brain when it comes to dating
My life on my own is actually pretty great
I have a solid routine my career is going fine I love my apartment and I genuinely enjoy my own company
I ve basically built a life where I don’t need a partner for anything
but whenever I go on a few dates with a guy I actually like a switch flips
All that independence just turns into a massive wall
i get so terrified of looking needy or losing the upper hand that I can't bring myself to text something as simple as 'I had a really good time let's do it again'
its like Im so used to being in control of my own little world that letting someone else in feels almost impossible
Honestly it's gotten to the point where I’m way more direct about what I want with my tracys dog than I am with a guy I ve been seeing for a month which is kind of pathetic to admit out loud
I know I'm completely sabotaging myself but I genuinely don't know how to turn the defense mechanisms off at this point