u/Luxorbris

I understand why people tend to not agree with the more intense parts of the ideology, but when it comes to things like. Increasing guard rails around sex. Labeling and limiting pornography so people, especially children, aren't randomly exposed. Cracking down on sexual assault. Dismantling the porn industry.

Why are those viewed as morally bad?? Why is literally trying to decrease the amount of rape seen as evil while posting unlabeled porn is seen as good? They even insist on shoving sex into spaces explicitly designed to keep it out. Are predators just stupidly common or what??

I'm so sick and tired of the world. I hope sex is eventually decentered from society, but I'm not optimistic about it happening any time soon.

Much earlier, I made a post about how to remove romance and sex from fiction, especially fantasy fiction, and I was given pretty good advice there. I finally got around to writing the basics down. Since romance, orientation, and sex are unfortunately very tangled with gender, I tried to allow it to still exist (I don't have anything against gender itself, just gender norms) but in a way where it is still distinct. I am not trans, and so I would like to know if there's anything that I was accidentally offensive with so that I can fix it.

I used the term 'creatures' because it's a fantasy project, and when you're dealing with everything from elves to cats to eldritch horrors, the words 'human,' 'humanoid,' and/or 'person' didn't work very well.

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Creation has no place for romance. Creatures do not pair up out of eros, but out of friendship or necessity. They do not require a partner to reproduce, as the act itself is a solitary task that mimics Abzu's own making of life. This is most often done through creating, incubating, and then hatching an egg, although some creatures will instead elect to reproduce through a bloodletting ritual or through sculpting clay. These latter methods require a mage in the process to prevent things from going wrong, as the creation magic is much harder to direct than it is through the making of an egg. The term ‘birth' was initially intended to refer to the more magical and dangerous methods while the term ‘hatch’ was intended to refer to the egg method, but over time the terms came to be used instead to refer to whether a creature is a mammal or not. Mammals, such as humans, dragons, and wolves, are typically considered to be ‘born' while other creature types such as insects and reptiles are typically considered to be ‘hatched.’ As there is no romance or reproduction, there is technically also a lack of gender. The terms ‘he,’ ‘she,’ and ‘they’ are instead used as indicators of personality and appearance. In most cultures, your gender is determined by your disposition. Those who tend towards creation are typically referred to as female, and those who tend towards destruction are typically referred to as male. This is, however, an oversimplification, as there is no real way to put one's reasoning for their gender into words. More often than not, gender is simply a term used to indicate what a creature's physical appearance and personality traits potentially are. The term ‘they’ is most often used when there are multiple creatures, for young creatures who have not decided their gender yet, or for when a creature's gender is not immediately obvious. It is also a common term to refer to deities, as most deities are considered to have a male and female aspect and therefore tend to fall between the two ends. Referring to a deity by ‘he’ or ‘she’ is considered to be directed specifically at their male or female aspect instead of the deity as a whole. Mortal creatures who use ‘they’ are rare, and usually do so to either indicate their closeness to divinity, such as in the case of a cleric or priest, or to make a statement about placing themselves perfectly in-between male and female values. Many religious orders encourage their followers to discard their chosen gender in favor of neutrality.

This is more of an aro/ace thing, but there's not an active actuallyaroace sub, so I'm putting this here.

Fantasy writing and worldbuilding is something I do all the time. However, with that comes a lot of tropes, and unfortunately a lot of those tropes are romantic and/or sexual (half-elves, half-orcs, succubi and incubi, literally anything to do with nobility and royalty). I've been having some issues with these topics; the best I've been able to do is make succubi/incubi feed on ecstasy, not sexual pleasure, so they're closer to drug dealers, and I just kind of deleted half-species entirely because they tend to be redundant in my eyes (also a lot of unfortunate implications that tends to come with them that I prefer to avoid). However, the nobility/royalty thing is something that I've been struggling with a ton, since it's so baked into pop culture and I haven't been able to find a good alternative that keeps the same 'right of blood' thing. I recently did a screenplay of Prince Lindworm for a school assignment but with all the romance removed, and even with how little romance was in the original tale, that was a slog to figure out thanks to how intertwined romance/sexuality and royalty/nobility is. I didn't even manage to get rid of it entirely, I just kind of had to vaguely gesture at it and move past it really quickly.

So, does anyone have any ideas? Any other romance-repulsed/sex-repulsed writers out there who have figured out a solution? I'm desperate enough that even a band-aid on the issue would be sufficient at this point.