r/antisex

I understand why people tend to not agree with the more intense parts of the ideology, but when it comes to things like. Increasing guard rails around sex. Labeling and limiting pornography so people, especially children, aren't randomly exposed. Cracking down on sexual assault. Dismantling the porn industry.

Why are those viewed as morally bad?? Why is literally trying to decrease the amount of rape seen as evil while posting unlabeled porn is seen as good? They even insist on shoving sex into spaces explicitly designed to keep it out. Are predators just stupidly common or what??

I'm so sick and tired of the world. I hope sex is eventually decentered from society, but I'm not optimistic about it happening any time soon.

I just got an account warning because I gave my sincerest opinion on what should happen to pornography producers. You can guess what I mean... I assume the AI found that 'E' word in my comment and gave me a warning because of that. Or our opposition is spying and reporting, which I highly doubt they're that obsessed.

The only alternative I can think of is the IAmFortress anti-sex forum. However it's low activity, with only me and a few people (up to six) interacting daily on the forum.

I use to judge porn addicts in the past because how could you desire to willingly go on a website and watch tons of women get abused? But nowadays, I want to go Amish and get off the internet. Pornography and hyper-sexual culture is pushed to high heavens. Now I believe it when conspiracy theorists say MK-Ultra is the internet and social media now.

Porn is in our music, in our movies, shows, art, books, etc. We are told to watch it when libido starts to irritate us. We are told it's okay. We are peer-pressured into being sexual, thinking sexually, and acting sexual.

Every community you go into, LGBTQ+, Far-leftist groups, hell, even religious far-right groups, is plagued with sexual degeneracy. I have been in groups that tried to groom me into age-play and pet-play. They take a child's vulnerable trauma and siphon them into destructive kinks and paraphilias. Children are being exposed to EPI (and ECPI thanks to Discord and X) in higher numbers. Not to mention there are sick adults promoting such harmful acts towards children. When a child is exposed to EPI, it is likely they'll become a porn-addict. The increase in "gooning" amongst Gen Z and younger is skyrocketing.

I am a living testament. For years, I've been trying to give up reading smut. My generation was the Wattpad and Ao3 era. Then in 2023, I became addicted to reading smut through role play chat bots like Character.ai. Those communities are FULL of sexual degeneracy.

Bottom line is, with how mass-spread pornography is, I honestly don't judge people for being porn-addicts anymore. I've been in their shoes. It's pushed onto us when we're children. So I do have some sympathy.

Now, I do judge those who watch pornography and have a history of sexual interactions with minors (online and/or in real life), engaging in online communities that promote horrid paraphilias, and promoting/enabling pornography. Their actions alongside their consumption matters a lot.

Now what about the people who know it's bad and continue to watch pornography? I'm not using depression as an excuse, but let's face it, the combination of guilt, neural connections, and constant orgasms degrading a person's brain messes up a person's empathy. The guilt may or may not come post-orgasm. Still, they do it again next time.

I didn't make this post to encourage everyone to coddle porn-addicts because my solution for them is seen as harsh. If there was scientific experimentation, I'd volunteer and hope to be the scientist pioneering it. I hypothesize that if one was to scientifically rid of their libido, the byproduct of arousal won't occur since the connection of sexual triggers to the brain and body will be severed.

TL;DR: I no longer judge porn addicts because porn and hypersex rhetoric, lifestyles and culture is pushed onto us and our children. Yes, misogynist men who watch pornography and enjoy seeing women in distress fall under the category of porn addicts I DO JUDGE and even hate. They fall under the "Promoting/enabling pornography" category and if they're in those disgusting subreddits, then they also fit in the "Engaging in online communities that promote paraphilias" cateogory.

Today I decided to look up a channel I hadn't watched in a while. It's a comedy channel that parodies movies.

Well, their latest video is from a few days ago, and it's on a completely different topic. In it, they were doing a kind of review of a capsule hotel in Denmark.

It caught my attention, so I decided to watch it, but halfway through the video, the YouTuber started hearing noises from inside his capsule. They were moans from a woman. He went outside to see how it was possible for two people to fit in a single capsule. But it turned out that, just a few steps away from him, there were two capsules with double beds...

It disgusted me so much that I couldn't finish watching the video.

Several things immediately went through my mind: how can those two people have so little shame or respect as to have sex in a place where everything can be heard?

How dare they leave their disgusting smell and revolting fluids inside? (Because it doesn't look easy to clean inside)

How many things are they going to touch with their filthy hands, considering they'll then have to leave, close the door, open the bathroom door...? Seriously, what the hell is wrong with them?

I truly find people like that deeply repulsive. I hope they get an infection down there for being so disrespectful and disgusting.

(I'm sorry if this last comment offends you. I try to be a good person, but things like this make my blood boil. Please don't take it seriously.)

This is a half-serious post.

Say we have an anti-sex organization. Some underground, some surface-level making moves within the government. We all heard about the conspiracy theories revolving around the CIA and their false flags in the past.

In an anti-sex organization, there are gonna be the radical sectors who wish to fulfill their purpose by any means necessary. One example could be false-flags, with the intention to shift public hatred towards sex-positivity and the hyper-sexual society. How do you think that could happen? And if we want to entertain such idea, how can it be done without harming people?

I don't know how to explain it, but in a weird way, the way people talk and behave around sex makes sex unnecessarily perverted.

Number one is the gross idea that sex is something "done to" a woman, rather than it being a mutual consenting activity.

Why is there such an incessant need for there to be any power dynamic at all? Like even in gay and lesbian relationships, there always has to be a "top" and a "bottom". Again, why is there a need for a power dynamic in the first place? Who made up these rules?

Not to mention how so many people have somehow conflated sex positivity with jumping in bed with literally anyone without knowing anything about them.

How is making sure a person has basic hygiene, and doesn't have any diseases before I have sex with them make me a prude? Even if this person is attractive, I'm not opening my legs without knowing if he even washes his ass with soap.

I'd love for everyone to chime in on this. We can go from boundaries to what laws need to be in place for anti-sex change.

For example, one thing I struggle with when talking to humans, is being caught off guard. I always talk to humans with the naive expectation that they won't mention sex because normally, we'd think sex is a private thing. I am proven wrong every time. So yeah, a topic about boundaries and ways to survive around these sex-crazed humans sounds like a nice discussion.

But I also wanna talk about how we can start organizing, maybe do anti-porn protests to appeal to the majority. Even sexuals can agree that pornography is being pushed onto everyone.

My libido skyrockets to high heavens almost every menstrual cycle. Arousal feels like a constant anxious feeling, and if I'm not careful, libido communicates sexual whispers to my brain trying to tempt me into reading smut and masturbating to it. I hate masturbation, it makes me feel groggy and depressed in an angry way. I hate the smut I read because it reflects off the trauma I endured in my life. So I'm left with that anxious feeling. I tried spearmint tea, I've tried mindful breathing and the naming ten things around me bullshit.

I don't know if it's too extreme to talk about here, but I want to be castrated. However I don't want to lose my ability to gain muscle if my testosterone is depleted...

My honest belief is that if you remove the libido, or whatever is triggering the sensation of arousal, sexual thoughts will not affect you. It'll just be an image in your mind as if you're thinking of something bland like raw broccoli. I know this because at one point my libido fell to an all-time low to a point sexual thoughts didn't stimulate my brain no matter how much I ran it through my head. I even tried masturbation, there was no sensation. Now I want to rid of libido entirely because that was the most I ever felt peaceful.

"My life is my own, it's the ONLY POV that I have, it is the most valuable thing in the universe for me so it is you sexuals who are incompatible with me and how DARE YOU be like that?"

See how easy it is for me to be a piece of shit and parrot the same things back to them? problem is I don't have the power to make it into reality unlike them who band together and say this in unison. These are HUMANS who are SUPPOSEDLY "smarter than animals"

They also bring up how majority of people are sexual and that sex is important to them, oh yeah don't worry, I know from the 500 encounters with rabid people.

Majority of people experience many things, from that majority there is lots of abuse victims or trafficking victims but OH you remembered about the majority of people only when it came to proving a point of yours.

I am extremely weary of ALL sexuals.

Nothing feels better to me than understanding I am a below average looking girl and men would most likely never approach me it’s such a relief I feel so sorry for girls that are very pretty and are always approached unwanted

It’s very odd in my opinion. I’m sure people have heard these things just as I have and I’ve also seen these in scientific literature as well.
"The purpose of our species is sex" and that "everything is based on sex" "everything connects to sex" are things I’ve heard and read and it’s genuinely grating that so many people believe that orgasms are the best sensations your body can produce and it feels better than almost everything. (And yes, people have told me that word by word)
And it really shows in broader society.
Our disgusting higher-ups don’t show their depravity in any other ways as much as they have shown sexual perversion. (That has become evident with the Epstein files)
Our biggest criminals are sexual perverts.
most of our music, comedy, entertainment almost always has sex involved somewhere in it.
Sex is even used as torture or punishment in wars, camps, jails.
Sex seems to be a very primary way of experiencing life that is not isolated and just bleeds into every aspect of society and I’m just tired of seeing it everywhere because I can’t escape it.
Being a sex-repulsed asexual is basically a death sentence and it’s so lonely because even sex-favorable asexuals don’t see seem to understand this perspective.

I just don't know what to do at this point.

I have very complex feelings about sex and relationships, mainly informed by a lot of unhappy experiences and heartbreak in the past, and I just want to spend my time not having to think about it.

The problem is, I'm a trans woman, and most of my immediate queer community is hypersexual. My history with sex is *maybe* once every few months, but not having sex twice a week with random people off Grindr or whatever seems to drive my queer friends crazy, and so they make sex their number one priority in day to day life. Being so psychologically dependent on sexual gratification is a completely alien mindset to me.

This wouldn't be a problem to me if I didn't have to hear about their sex lives. You do you. But I feel that when I'm in a group conversation with them, the conversation often and quickly turns to sex. Who you're having sex with, trash-talking people who are bad or inexperienced at sex, etc. And sex or relationship topics have already become a trigger for me due to unhappy past relationships and heartbreak, but I'm too afraid to assert that boundary because it would make me seem prude or "sex negative" (the cardinal sin in queer polyamorous culture).

Conversely, when I try to talk about my own interests with my queer friends, such as art or plants or movies or stuff, I struggle to hold their attention--they often miss things I say because they're texting on their phones (likely trying to find someone to hookup with). I just feel like an outsider.

This queer alienation has gotten bad for me and made me increasingly depressed. Even though I'm trans, I don't feel "queer enough" to fit in, and I feel like I can't truly relate to or connect with people on a deep emotional level without trying to fake being a hypersexual kinkster. It's even triggered crises for me in the past.

And I'm not sure what to do. The safe bet would be to just entirely focus on my social life on the arts and writing communities I'm currently involved in, because when I'm with them I don't often hear extended conversations about sex that I don't feel like I have anything to contribute to that make me feel like some sort of inferior, non-human thing; these aren't necessarily queer, though, so I'm worried that would make me a traitor or a "pick me" or something? I'm just not sure.

And I do love my queer friends. They are fun to party with and stuff, and I don't want to cut them out of my lives. But I just know sex is a far more important priority for them in their lives than me, which is a source of trauma and bad feelings. I just want to write my fantasy and horror stories and make art, and relate to other human beings on spiritual, artistic, emotional, and intellectual levels--not on a biological level.

Sex is killing me.

Anything related to sex destroys me deeply and instantly. I feel an overwhelming sense of discomfort and genuine pain whenever the subject comes up. Whether it's stupid jokes or what other people consider "normal" conversations about it, I just can't take it anymore.

I'm confronted with it ALL THE TIME. It makes me feel nauseous, and I end up vomiting. I literally throw up when people talk about it or even imply it.

How am I supposed to live peacefully like this? How am I ever supposed to find love?
I have such a deep, visceral hatred for it.

WHY HAS SEX STILL NOT BEEN ABOLISHED IN 2026?

Sex makes me feel nihilistic, and that saddens me.
I just needed to get this off my chest today. Thank you for reading.
How do you deal with this? Do you have any advice or solutions?

Thank you. I love you all.

If I lived there I just wouldn't have sex, incels and priests already exist, I wouldn't risk my life to get laid. Sex isn't the most important thing to me, I feel like the issue is exaggerated.

I'm done with asexual as a term, I will not use celibate either as this may make people think I can be changed.

I will just say "not interested, goodbye" from now on.

Yes she is literally posing in lingerie that is so clearly made for the male gaze..??? Idk what to tell these people, "it's her choice" libfems, thanks guys, let's normalize the modelling industry, hmm wonder where the rich men get women 30 years younger than them (18-20, children) to accompany them in public (HINT: MODELLING INDUSTRY.)

I thought I should just share my experiences because I've seen a lot of content here that is either sex-repulsed non-libido asexual antisexuals (things like "sex is just: person stabs another person's icky genitals with their own icky genitals") and feminist antisexuals (things like "sex is just rape" or "sex is like stabbing") or both. I will not condemn these, heaven knows I know how hard it is for me myself to be told my ideas are absurd and I agree with the messages of these comments - I'm of course very concerned in particular about male on female sexual abuse, as a man I must apologise at how awful my kind can be - even if I don't necessarily resonate with the filler.

However, I would like to introduce a new form of secular antisexualism (it may not be new, I haven't spent much time on this subreddit, so apologies if this far more common than I realise) by providing my perspective as an aegosexual (to be more specific: High standards quasihetero-quasicupid-plantoni-aromantic, quasicaedo-apothi-piahomoapothi-homo-aegosexual (with the aegosexuality likely predating the "light" trauma) - I know it looks insane, but it's the best I've got to describe myself), I think there's something powerful about those of us who do understand to some degree the attraction to the acts rather than just finding them icky, and I would like to share my experience and hopefully resonate with others.

I had a typical sort of development as a child I guess (I can't fully be sure what's normal for children), experiencing some early form of sexual curiosity as a young prepubescent and coming across masturbation at 11 (yes I hadn't the most comfortable time, with dry orgasms, frenelum breve, premature ejaculation, etc (again, sorry for the detail and crassness, I'm very comfortable with talking about sex negatively/neutrally, even if I'm repulsed by the act and sex positive talk and sex enabling talk), but I was sort of typical). I came across porn online at around 13 and kept watching it without shame for two whole years - the extremity did not really matter, I saw some pretty extreme content as is usual of the internet - BDSM, consensual non-consent, public, that sort of thing.

Perhaps around 14, I started feeling uncomfortable about those taking about the necessity of condoms as if sex was a necessity - I decided (I had no interest in actual sex anyways) that sex was too dangerous for what it was worth: STIs, unwanted child (because of course it's not as if that's the precise point of sex), etc, and that masturbation was much better.

Fast forward to 15, November 2023, I was trying NNN as was typical of me and I was feeling confident that year as my drive felt it was subsiding. Got 15 days in, then I crashed into a really hypersexual stage, which made me feel guilty and out of control even without antisexual feelings yet. It was this precise thing which started my antisexualism, that lack of control, combined with my secrecy around the act (I'm very outwards and honest, as you might be able to see in how much I'm revealing about myself, so I hated hiding it), with an added realisation of just how uncomfortable I was with others' sex lives (I kept seeing forums telling parents to brush over and/or enable their child's sex life, which even then felt like a massively discomforting thing for me), combined with the overly clinical yet sex positive sex eds and last but not least, the raging hypocrisy between sex positivity, yet revulsion at child sexual activity, yet wishing to keep safe children who engage with each other in such a way. My beliefs for that last point had always been clearly favouring of enabling the children before this point, but I suddenly clicked and around that time (late 2023 to early 2024), I suddenly became the other way inclined: don't enable anyone to do such ghastly acts - they must be taboo for a reason, people needed to be more consistent in condemning sex, not just sex in certain contexts, even if they weren't for a reason, my newly discovered offence was ample reason for society to find it condemnable. This brought me into the start of my ongoing difficulties which I suppose I should call depression.

Fast forward a year and it's that time of year again, November 2024, and of course antisexual me who was wishing he could get chemically castrated by this point had to come across pornography of deeply illegal public sex acts on this very site (I probably shouldn't go into it, but trust me, it was worse than just public sex) and that traumatised me and left me completely broken for over 6 months, any subtlety or compromise I could have had was now gone, I don't believe I had even wanted to be in the relative proximity of sex for a whole year before, now I certainly didn't. November 2025 was suddenly the time when my attempts to stop with my masturbation - as I'd been properly trying to do for 2 whole years by this point - finally bared some fruit, as I'm now currently still largely keeping it down (relatively, at least).

The reason I have given this deeply personal overview which hopefully hasn't repulsed too many people - I'm sorry if I have, I hope you can understand I'm reflecting on my own activities critically, rather than acceptingly - is because I think it describes how I place myself as an antisexual. I am not repulsed by the sheer anatomy of the act - to the contrary, it somewhat excites me, even the pages here on calling the penis a knife to stab someone with, taking about ejaculating into others, taking about fluids, etc, I don't view those things in a way I feel is similar to others here but more so probably how allosexuals (or even more fittingly, non-antisexual aegosexuals) do. However I still feel guilt when the lust wears off: post coitus dysphoria, general guilt in watching pornography even if not orgasming, just a general repulsion to the types of things so many people seem to be doing in so many places around the world and how little shame they have. I still deeply relate to that feeling of isolation of living in a sex positive world, but for me it's arguably worse, I feel defeatist in trying to fight my own desires (though I've now got some ADHD medication which should help) rather than just hating others' (I don't know if those without libidos can't get nocturnal omissions because that requires arousal, semen otherwise coming out during urination, but I hate it too and would rather not have it) and I feel like my desire has dragged me into these dark pits far more intimately and graphically and frequently than with those who have the luxury of non-libido asexuality. I hope I am not alone here, hopefully this will make others with a similar story feel understood and, if it does, I would like to see people's replies, although I never spend any time at all on Reddit, so I may not see anything if I don't check.

1. Are any of you autistic?

2. Are any of you Christian?

3. Are any of you Homosexual?

4. Do you guys jork it?

5. Do you guys have a poor relationship with family?

6. Have any of you actually tried it?

What do you mean why does it bother you so much? Do you not see how just disgusting and awful it is? I feel so alone. I’m the only person I know that feels this way about it.

I genuinely don't understand women who enjoy it and I'm a woman too. From what I've read, it seems like it's mostly psychological and it's sad women have to psych themselves into it to benefit men.