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In 3 weeks I’m bringing my in laws to Chicago for 4 days with my husband and 2 year old. FIL is 75, fatigues easily and refuses assistive devices like a walker or wheelchair, but will gently insist “the baby needs a nap doesn’t she?” when he wants to rest. 😉 MIL is 71 and can handle walking a lot and loves sightseeing with a few scenic benches for breaks and snacks.

Not renting a car or bringing a car seat. We will use CTA the whole time. Staying in Wicker Park.

I grew up in Westmont and lived in Lakeview for my first several years out of college. In laws are all native San Diegans. I’ve brought my husband back to Chicago almost yearly both in summer and winter for the past 10 years. We see it as a place to move in the future before our child gets deep into her school years. He wants to move to Chicago almost more than I do! My in laws are open to the idea of moving there with us but have never been.

So this is a trip to try and show my in laws the best of what it would be like living in Chicago.

So far thinking Millennium Park, Maggie Daly Park, museum campus, CAC river tour. What else?

My husband and I have experienced a lot of the fun stuff you do in your 20s and 30s. What are the best things to do with elderly folks?

I’d ask my parents but even though they are still in the area they are suburban home bodies and suggested Navy Pier. 🙄 TIA

I work for UCSF. The Chief Nursing Officer from OHSU is leaving for my org next month. We’ve had a lot of executive level shake ups in the last 3 years, including a revolving door of CNOs here.

Without any defamation and keeping it respectful, I’m wondering if any OHSU nurses can comment on whether you liked your current CNO and her direction?

A simple “ha, good luck” or “we will miss her, she was great” would do. TIA

I work for UCSF. The Chief Nursing Officer from OHSU is leaving for my org next month. We’ve had a lot of executive level shake ups in the last 3 years, including a revolving door of CNOs here.

Without any defamation and keeping it respectful, I’m wondering if any OHSU nurses can comment on whether you liked your current CNO and her direction?

A simple “ha, good luck” or “we will miss her, she was great” would do. TIA

tl;dr - check to make sure that your landlord has a rent increase license before you pay any increases on a rent-controlled unit

The housing shortage and competitive apartment hunting posts seem worse than they have ever been. Part of how SF local government expects to know what the current apartment housing supply is like is by requiring landlords and property owners to report their housing inventory each year.

How can they enforce or incentivize this, you may ask? By requiring property owners to complete their annual housing inventory reports in order to receive their rent increase license.

What is a rent increase license? It allows landlords to lawfully increase your rent on a rent-controlled unit. If they don't have this license, then you can report them to the Rent Board and they will send the owner a notice, and you may be entitled to a refund of the "increases" that you paid.

How do you know if your landlord has a license? Type your apartment address here in the Find box on the right. https://portal.sfrb.org/ If your address has a "Housing Inventory Submission" for 2026, then your landlord did the thing. If not, then they can't increase your rent if you have a rent-controlled unit. You can report an unlawful increase here https://www.sf.gov/report-unlawful-rent-increase-or-request-review-your-rent-history

Full disclosure, I no longer live in SF. After 15 years in the city, I moved (very regrettably) to southern CA for family last year. My last SF apartment was a $4,000 3 bed/1 bath with in unit laundry a block off Duboce Park, a real steal, with just me, my husband, and our baby. Our unit did not have a rent increase license. I told the landlord and said I would not be paying the increase when they asked for one. They never acknowledged my email and never brought it up again.

When we moved out, I sent an email to the young women moving in to let them know this. It's been a year now. The unit still does not have a rent increase license today. I wonder if they remembered or if the landlord will start collecting it from them on July 1.

More info:
https://www.sf.gov/rent-board-housing-inventory
https://www.sf.gov/notice-of-owner-noncompliance-with-housing-inventory

Edit to add: I did not put the 'Crime' tag/flair. Idk how it's there or why.

I read the rules and hope this is allowed. I am a clinical subject matter expert and want to share my perspective. I've had this theory for awhile, so here goes.

I think Kate had gallbladder cancer. I see the “what kind of cancer?” question on here a lot. I am a board certified oncology nurse in the U.S. and my patient population is specialized and is exclusively patients with cancers of the liver or gallbladder only. I’m going to use “GBC” for gallbladder cancer. 

Relevant Risk Factors:

• Female (has to do with estrogen and gallbladder stones); GBC is 2x more common in women ^((1, 2, 3))
• Possible history of eating disorder; EDs increase a persons risk of gallbladder stones ^((4))
• Gallbladder stones (cholelithiasis) increases the risk of GB cancer 5x ^((5))

Routine Abdominal Surgery

• It is common for people with gallbladder issues to have their gallbladder removed in a routine, laparoscopic surgery. GBC is an incidental (unexpected) finding in 2.1% of routine gallbladder removals ^((6)) and is only determined upon the pathology review to check for cancer after it has been removed.

Chemotherapy

• GBC has a very high recurrence rate of 31.6% ^((7)) meaning that even after the cancer is completely removed with good clean margins around the tumor, it comes back a third of the time.
• Because of this, professional society guidelines both in the U.S. (the NCCN) and Europe (ESMO) recommend adjuvant treatment for GBC after surgery, with 6 months of oral chemotherapy pills called capecitabine, with or without concurrent radiation.
• The capecitabine chemo pills commonly cause dermatologic toxicities (hands and feet mostly, but rash can happen anywhere), fatigue, nausea, vomiting, and diarrhea.
• Up to 24% of patients on monotherapy capecitabine (meaning without radiation or other combination chemos) will have partial or complete hair loss.

Remission

• After completing the adjuvant chemo, new scans are done. If no sign of cancer anywhere in the body, then the patient is declared to be in remission.
• They will keep doing scans and blood work every 3-6 months for 5 years, as nearly all recurrences will happen within this time frame.

Feelings for the royals aside, I also encourage others to get involved or donate to foundations that help patients with GBC (which is considered one of several different kinds of cholangiocarcinoma):

• The AMMF in the UK
• The Cholangiocarcinoma Foundation in the US

So, there you have it. My theory on which cancer it is. Feel free to ask follow up questions or shoot holes in my theory!

References

1. Jiang, Y., Jiang, L., Li, F., Li, Q., Yuan, S., Huang, S., Fu, Y., Yan, X., Chen, J., Li, H., Li, S., & Liu, J. (2022). The epidemiological trends of biliary tract cancers in the United States of America. BMC gastroenterology, 22(1), 546. https://doi.org/10.1186/s12876-022-02637-8
2. Rahman, R., Simoes, E. J., Schmaltz, C., Jackson, C. S., & Ibdah, J. A. (2017). Trend analysis and survival of primary gallbladder cancer in the United States: a 1973-2009 population-based study. Cancer medicine, 6(4), 874–880. https://doi.org/10.1002/cam4.1044
3. Van Dyke, A. L., Shiels, M. S., Jones, G. S., Pfeiffer, R. M., Petrick, J. L., Beebe-Dimmer, J. L., & Koshiol, J. (2019). Biliary tract cancer incidence and trends in the United States by demographic group, 1999-2013. Cancer, 125(9), 1489–1498. https://doi.org/10.1002/cncr.31942
4. McNeice, A., Scott, R., Rafferty, G. P., Cash, W. J., & Turner, G. B. (2019). The hepatobiliary complications of malnutrition and nutritional support in adults. Irish journal of medical science, 188(1), 109–117. https://doi.org/10.1007/s11845-018-1836-8
5. Stinton, L. M., & Shaffer, E. A. (2012). Epidemiology of gallbladder disease: cholelithiasis and cancer. Gut and liver, 6(2), 172–187. https://doi.org/10.5009/gnl.2012.6.2.172
6. Kumar N, P., Gupta, Y., & Nag, H. H. (2025). Incidental Gallbladder Cancer: A Comprehensive Review. Journal of gastrointestinal cancer, 56(1), 94. https://doi.org/10.1007/s12029-025-01212-0
7. Catalano, G., Alaimo, L., Chatzipanagiotou, O. P., Rashid, Z., Kawashima, J., Ruzzenente, A., Aucejo, F., Marques, H. P., Bandovas, J., Hugh, T., Bhimani, N., Maithel, S. K., Kitago, M., Endo, I., & Pawlik, T. M. (2025). Recurrence patterns and prediction of survival after recurrence for gallbladder cancer. Journal of gastrointestinal surgery : official journal of the Society for Surgery of the Alimentary Tract, 29(4), 101997. https://doi.org/10.1016/j.gassur.2025.101997

Edit to add: I posted here and not the other royals sub for a reason, and still it is wild how much hate I am getting for things like being a nurse and not an MD, saying that I am AI, complaining that I used sources, and angry that I suggested that anyone who read this check out some of the GBC non-profit orgs websites 😆

Apparently I need to say it: I do not know Kate Middleton, I have not treated her, and I am not part of her medical team or PR.

I thought this would bring up good discussions (and shooting holes in my theory as others have said), such as how the rarity of GBC makes it so unlikely that Kate had it, that the timing or details from KP statements doesn't add up, and other comments from some of you that I really appreciate. Thanks to all of you who said you enjoyed my post or learned something about this rare cancer from it.

I intended this to be a fun, very unlikely theory from yes, a lowly nurse! If it isn't fun for you, then please move on, I am not offended, but clearly you are. ✌️