u/MadameRenegade

Got into a really bad argument with my SO recently that has me feeling kind of.. lost?

I had a baby almost a year ago, and I guess my confidence has just been extra shot. I dressed pretty low key before (graphic/band tees and jeans/shorts) but it seems to be even more so since having my son. I really like being comfy, but I guess my old clothes aren’t cutting it, and he isn’t feeling attracted.. and I don’t feel attractive, either.

I need some tips on some budget-friendly closet staples that can help me look less frumpy. He used a different word but frumpy is close enough ha. Also some tips on how I can maybe accessorize or jazz up items I already have, so I look more put together?

I dress a bit more on the casual alternative side. Lots of dark colors. Very casual, not super girly.. I’m a size 18-20 bottoms, 2XL tops depending on the shirt. Any suggestions on reasonably priced places to get clothes would be great, too! Can’t afford Torrid prices.

I remember being so excited to watch Idol back in the day. There was so much power behind the performances.. so much passion. It felt like the contestants wanted to be there, and that so much was riding on this shot. This was their only CHANCE to make it.

Kelly, Adam Lambert, Carrie, Constantine, Chris Daughtry… just to name a few of my favorites.

I will admit that it has been a few years since I watched. This is the first season in probably.. ten years? Maybe not even that long, I don’t even know. I went into it excited to get back into it. But man.. it is just so, so AWFUL.

It all feels so forced. There’s no passion behind these vocals. Rarely does it feel like they even want to be there. Like this is the most important thing they have ever done. As I type this I am watching them sing “You’ve got a friend in me” and.. LORD it’s so bad. It feels like they’re at the end of their shift and they get to clock out after this song and go home, so they’re just trying to get through it.

I don’t know what it is, maybe some of you who have been watching in recent years can fill me in with what is missing. Is it the hyper-forced theming (spirituality, Disney, throwbacks) that doesn’t let them be true to themselves? Is it the fact that each episode just feels like a Disney ad of some sort? (I love me some Disney, don’t get me wrong)

Why do they all seem so MISERABLE?

Someone please help me figure it out, it’s killing me lol.