u/MahinhingPusa

Problem/Goal: Bf is pressured to propose to me. Should I continue our relationship?

Context: my bf got married and got separated a long time ago before I came in his life. He is waiting for his citizenship dito sa abroad to get foreign divorce. We’ve been together for 4 years and living together. My mom doesn’t know the he is still married.

Now, my mom keep on asking him what his plans for us is. Nagpaparinig din sya na dapat daw mag baby na kami dahil we’re aging. He is 39, I’m 30. I asked him last time lang kung natatakot ba sya magpakasal ulit dahil sa failed marriage nya before sabi nya oo daw natatakot sya. Pero ang masakit sa sinabi nya is papakasalan nya ko dahil yung mom ko palaging nagtatanong sakanya kung kelan na ba namin balak mag settled down.

So now I felt like kahit mag propose sya I would say no kasi pressured lang pala sya. Now I question myself do I still continue this relationship??

Previous attempt: none

Mahal ko yung boyfriend ko pero hindi na ako in love sakanya. Ang dami naming differences. Hindi ko alam paano sasabihin sakanya. Every time I bring up something ang iniisip nya gumagawa ako ng pag aawayan namin. I want to let him know my feelings to work things out but I know mauuwi sa away when I only want is healthy communication.

Ang hirap pag boyfriend mo is not emotionally intelligent. Hindi nya ako madalas maintindihan. Kailangan ko spoon feed sakanya yung mga bagay bagay.