u/MakrineCcebera

(48F) I take Viibryd for anxiety (and depression), and also 300 mg of bupropion (Wellbutrin, for depression) but bipolar runs in my family. I may have a touch of it, not sure.

I have increased night sweats since taking Viibryd. I take it in the morning around 9:00 A.M. So, overnight at least twice, I wake up sweating, then after about 5 -10 minutes the sweating stops and I go back to sleep. I also get the sweating during the day a few times. I sometimes get them while eating a meal. I also feel hit from the inside periodically during the day, and my hands feel hot, without sweating.

I want to stop taking Viibryd due to these sweats AND the sexual side effects (impossible to orgasm). The doc says the sweats are NOT from the Viibryd. Does that sound right?
She says if the sweats were caused by Viibryd I would be sweating all night, and also sweating at lower room temps during the day than I did before I took it. Does that sound right?

Since I told her I don’t want to be on it due to sexual side effects (and the sweats) she prescribed Lamictal, I haven’t started it yet. She said to add the Lamictal and increase the dosage over time, and once I’m up to speed on Lamictal then I can taper off Viibryd. Anyone have experience with this?

I wish I could taper off the Viibryd and then after that add the Lamictal, but apparently adding Lamictal and THEN tapering off Viibryd is common?

And please clarify for me—true or false:
“college prep” level classes today are the equivalent of “General” level classes in the 1990s.

T or F: Honors or AP classes today are the equivalent of College Prep classes in the 1990s.

T or F: Students today have to learn much more advanced info at an earlier age than students in the 1990s. (E.g., algebra in 6th grade?)

(How can seemingly conflicting info be true?)

T or F: grades are inflated today.

(In NJ) If you see your child doing little to no homework at home, who says he mostly does it in class because they give them time in class, and is mostly in college prep classes—does all of this mean that students are learning much less material today than they were in the 1990s?

Students are given study guides (fill in the blanks worksheets) to study for their tests and they don’t do them or don’t memorize what’s on them because they still don’t get decent grades on the tests even though the test questions are taken straight from the study guides. (Source—my friend who taught high school biology in VA)

(48F, in NJ) I remember in high school coming home and taking a half hour to play/relax and then doing homework all afternoon and then again after dinner. I also remember bringing every subject’s books home nearly every day to do homework in the fall. Somehow in the spring I squeezed all my work in after soccer practice and games. I took college prep. (No honors, no AP).

I know this is hard to answer due to variations from school to school and region to region. I’m asking for your experience/observations.

This is somewhat of a silly question, I suppose. I always assumed that since AW says for 16 oz of water use half a lemon’s juice to make lemon water, that 32 ounce of water would require a whole lemon. What do you think? Would a half lemon in 32 ounces of water be sufficient enough to be living water? Am I wasting lemons? I admit I prefer the taste of a whole lemon in 32 oz of water. I know it doesn’t hurt to use a whole lemon in 32 ounces of water.

And both of you have controlling personalities and need to be right? And you have been to marriage counseling but your spouse only went because they felt you were the cause of all the problems? Your spouse cooperated and implemented some of the recommended techniques suggested by the counselor to frt along. as did you, but outside the therapy sessions told you that you are the cause of all the problems. You give in and back down a lot in order to get along with your spouse.

And in interpersonal relationships with family you both insist on doing things your way.

On a micro level how do you handle your feelings when you heard what your spouse had to say but you still disagree with their opinion? And you feel they should do what you think they should do?

Do people with anger issues “find” each other and marry each other? Do calm people marry each other? Does a calm person marry an angry person? Is there any hope for any relationships where one person is angry?

I hope AW writes a book about peri and menopause! I know—I own all his books except the expanded LCF—so yes I’ve read his first book and the expanded version of it, and the TH book. (I don’t think we’re supposed to promote any thing that’s why I abbreviated). I know what all those say about menopause. I have to look at C to H again though.). I am hoping he could be more specific as exactly which supplements or how much to alleviate specific symptoms! I understand peri and menopause symptoms do not happen to every female, but they sure do happen to a lot of us. And I understand that peri is NOT and cannot be compared to (nor should it) cancer or PCOS or many other very serious chronic medical conditions or the plight of someone who is on mattress island. But also all the loved ones of people who suffer from peri symptoms and also the actual per suffered themselves are a huge part of the population.

But I must say that here’s what worked a couple years ago and these symptoms are the ones I wish AW could be specific about:

1. I added mid-afternoon regimen of 16oz cucumber juice daily — (this was in addition to my morning LW, CJ and HMD) — within 3 days my nightsweats stopped. (They were mild but happening every couple hours overnight.) I drank the cucumber juice sporadically after that and the sweats and flashes stayed away for a while. (46-47F)

2)nearly falling asleep at dinner table;
No libido or interest in sex at all (47F at the time) (Maca; AW doesn’t talk about this I don’t think; I got this idea from my GP who told me about Dr Anna Cabeca

3. waking at 3:00 A.M; then automatically waking at 5:00 AM with racing thoughts of “to-Do’s” and my brain trying to do my job/solve Problems in my head when I awaken which of course I cannot do while in bed (I try to go back to sleep but can’t and can’t stop the racing thoughts
   —then it turned into waking every 2 hours
   I think it was the maca that solved this but possibly also magnesium (I don’t think AW says much about magnesium for menopause; I have to review)

4. anger; feeling irritated and annoyed; flying off the handle; (I am not sure if the maca brought this on or if it was a combination of life circumstances). This is back again a little and because Inhad stopped the maca for over 6 months I just started taking it again consistently to see if it causing anger (I read elsewhere some
   People felt angry after taking maca)

5. female anatomy atrophy and no good feelings/or loss of sensation/arousal—might as well be touching my elbow. —(before the depression and anxiety meds I used a DHEA cream daily. It felt good to even apply it (which I think my feel good feelings came from the maca)

6. anhedonia (I am just starting to come out of this but it hasten 6 months

7. no motivation to do anything at all — nothing—and feeling angry about all the “to Do’s” and how I have to do them for the rest of my life (laundry, cleaning, cooking

I remember how very little used to bother me 3-5 years ago. I never before in life had to fight my own thoughts or battle myself so hard. I never had to motivate myself. I used to just do what I needed to do; daily tasks didn’t bother me.

Thank God I drank LW-CJ—HMD smoothie every day for about two years or perhaps my peri symptoms would have been way worse! At least I like to think so. But I still would rather NOT have any of these symptoms!

I had a depressive episode and stopped
following all MM due to being depressed. Too much work; no motivation, just wanted to be asleep. So now aim back on my anti-depressants which I hadn’t needed for about 2 years. And I have added anxiety medication (I wish I hadnt) to combat the situational anxiety due to work and the racing thoughts of my “to do” list in my head. BUT the depression meds stop me
From climaxing and the anxiety meds cause waking up at night and also cause night sweats and hot flashes.

If I could just retire or win the lottery then I would n’t have this stressful job and Incoild stop the anxiety meds. (I’m going to try to find a new job).