u/ManagerWeird3066

First time doing my 11 lines! How do you avoid injecting into a blood vessel? there’s so many close to that area

Best meds for bipolar a that are also alcoholics

Idk what to do. Alcohol is ruining my marriage but I can’t stop because it relieves my social anxiety. I don’t drink at home alone just when I’m out and about. When I do it’s 9+ drinks, black out and cause a dramatic outburst Embarassing scene everytime or break things.. self harm if I am triggered, ruin relationships maybe I’m bipolar ? It’s like the only way to quit is to never leave my house… and that’s so boring and depressing. I want to go golfing and have my drinks (can’t golf without alcohol) etc I’m honestly screwed. Life will suck if I have to quit could I moderate maybe?

IMPORTANT: I just found out the mods in the “fencesitter” group do in fact HAVE kids and that’s why they’re deleting so many posts that go against having kids. It’s like they have an agenda and want us to join their misery? It all makes sense now because here is what I posted the other day. Not only was it deleted within minutes, I reposted AND I GOT BANNED! (We need to spread the word so innocent fencesitters don’t get tricked into having kids)

“SOCIETY MADE ME. HUHHH??”
After doing an intense, obsessive amount of research on what it actually takes to be a parent, budgeting, physical toll, mental health impact, traveling, lack freedom, cooking perfect meals every night, my dogs comfort, and lifestyle changes, I've decided being childfree is the right path for me. (Especially since I don't even enjoy babysitting; the thought of that job 24/7 with no clock-out time sounds like a nightmare).

What I struggle to understand is when people say they had a kid because of "societal pressure" or to "check a box."

External pressure has never worked on me because I'm the one living with the fallout, not society. Worst case, people judge my lifestyle choices for five minutes, but parenting is a lifetime commitment. Also being judged is hard. But parenting is also hard. So Choose your hard right?

Maybe my brain just works differently, as I have ADHD and question everything but I've analyzed parenthood down to a science. I've read up on every single developmental phase month to month up to 18. It blows my mind when people close to me are weeks away from having a baby and haven't even looked into feeding logistics or childcare yet.

It feels like a lot of people just follow the default life path without asking why. If you hate cars, you don't open a mechanic shop. If you don't want to be a caregiver around the clock, why have kids just because it's the expected script?

Also “who will take care of you when you’re old,” is BS. Most retirement homes are filled with people who don’t get visits from their kids, not to mention the average child is $15k-$21k a year… invest that and BOOM, personal nurse 🤯???

I’m genuinely asking, and not judging but how do people approach such a massive life choice without deeply analyzing it first? I truly don’t get it and sometimes feel like I’m on a planet with 99% NPCS…