u/MarketingUnusual1800

i (23m) recently met this girl (23f) and we hit it off immediately. im a very social anxious guy and upon meeting her i almost immediately felt comfortable and like i had known her for years. It started as us just planning to sleep with eachother but thats not what happened. im not afraid to admit that i was very nervous since shes very attractive and it had been a while since i last had sex, so i was unable to perform…but i still made sure to satisfy her. i reassured her several times it wasnt her, and we ended up just laying together talking through the night. i worked the next day and only slept an hour. we have so much in common, we just talked nonstop while cuddling and kissing. Everything felt so natural. We eventually fell asleep and she woke up with me super early to walk with me to my car and say goodbye. we even kissed goodbye. she stayed attracted to me and liked me even after my embarrassing sex performance.

she lives a few hours away, so i was planning to see her the next weekend.

we texted constantly about whatever was going on in our day. we said good morning, we said good night, we facetimed.

i have never felt so much attraction towards a female as i do to this woman. and she told me the same thing. and that this is all scary to her how easy it felt, and how fast we clicked.

then it ended.

shes a full time medical student in a top 10 US school and final exams are coming up and is under immense pressure. she sent me a huge text a day before we were supposed to meet again saying that she likes me so much, that we have an amazing connection, im handsome, thoughtful, sweet and that ive made her feel things shes never felt, but she just cannot see herself having a relationship right now in school. she said she knows she wouldnt be able to give me what i need and deserve. she said its hard and time consuming and that next year is going to be even harder. and that she’s moving somewhere next year. she reassured me that its nothing to do with me just where shes at in life trying to prioritize her goals.

shes making the best choice for herself. its painful but selfless. i 100% respect her decision and her for telling me and being honest with me. she said if anything changes and that if i still want her, she will let me know.

im not going to push for a relationship with her and pressure her. and we also havent talked since. but…i want to pursue this at some point. We both really like eachother and id love to see where it can potentially go one day. i plan to send a text after her finals just telling her that i hope shes doing okay and that i bet she crushed them. not seeking a response, just showing that i care and to see where shes at.

have any of yall been in the same situation?

i know im infatuated with the potential. and that i dont really know her flaws or our incompatibilities. and honestly i dont care, the potential is enough to make it worth it to me. we’re young. im not putting my life on hold, but i want her to know ill be open to us talking again if shes ever willing.

she is genuinely the prettiest, the coolest, the funniest, and cutest girl ive ever seen/met. and id hate to miss out on it, without even being able to say we tried.