u/MarsAlivee

I work as a vet, I often think of changing careers (because we are overworked, underpayed and deal with a lot). I don't think psychology major would solve that problem though, but thought worth mentioning in case someone has a different opinion and to give some context.

However I am fascinated with the human mind, how humans change throughout their lives, how child trauma molds their personalities, personality disorders, serial killer minds, etc etc

I think I would like to study psychology just for the fun of it, however probably not paying for the degree and doing it on my free time.

Does this make sense? Anyone else done it? Where to start? Any advise?

TIA

I work as a vet, I often think of changing careers (because we are overworked, underpayed and deal with a lot). I don't think psychology major would solve that problem though, but thought worth mentioning in case someone has a different opinion and to give some context.

However I am fascinated with the human mind, how humans change throughout their lives, how child trauma molds their personalities, personality disorders, serial killer minds, etc etc

I think I would like to study psychology just for the fun of it, however probably not paying for the degree and doing it on my free time.

Does this make sense? Anyone else done it? Where to start? Any advise?

TIA

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30F in a relationship with 29M for 1.5 years.

I'll try to summarise some aspects:

About me:

- only healthy relationship l've been. Previous relationships had a lot of intense highs and lows, keeping me on my feet. I felt a lot of passion towards them but I also knew I wasn't supposed to have lows so lows ( now I realize the highs were so high because of that). Basically they were a bit toxic.

- I'm a very anxious and indecisive person with all aspects of life, and committing with something forever is very difficult. There's probable not one single aspect I have in my life I can say it's for life - I don't know what's my future job going to be, future house, future country.. Everything is open for me.

- I value a lot independency and am usually more reserved with public expression of love.

About my relationship/partner:

- I feel he actually knows me deeply and still likes me. I feel seen by him. I asked him and he says he also feels seen by me.

- we started as friends first, which was the first time for me. I didn't feel that super high passion "love at first sight" that I felt with the others because we were very good friends for a few months. Then he eventually said he liked me, and I got used to the idea and the atraction started to appear. I did have the initial feeling of crush/passion, but it faded quicker I think because I already knew him well. Still those moments still come and go in phases.

- I think because of all this, plus him being a little bit different than the previous guys and patterns (respectful, high emotional intelligence, very sweet) I sometimes question if I love him enough and I almost always question if I want to be with him forever. There were moments where I have said "yes I want him forever", specially more recently I was feeling so so happy with him.

What happened now:

- we live together with our other friend (his previous roommate)

- that person got a partner and basically they are codependent and in 1 month she moved in with us

- our friend doesn't go out if she doesn't, doesn't do stuff because needs to rest to be with her (??), plus the displays of love, they are all the time touching each other and flirting

- to share an example we all watched a movie once and I was standing next to them and they were the whole movie touching each other in the arms, face, rubbing face in each other arms and not actually watching the movie

- we go out to a coffee house and they can't be without touching each other, giving small kisses, and walking with one hand under the other pants on the but cheek 😂 anyway

Besides this new situation being simply annoying, I think it also made me doubt my relationship because I don't feel that strong intensity and maybe never did with him. I then start comparing with what I have and now my current relationship seems dull.

It's making me have anxiety, trouble breathing, and question what I have.

I also can't fathom the idea of leaving him because he's so great and I love being with him. I think he makes me happy but now I am questioning it.

What can I do to make me calmer and more confident with my relationship?

TLDR: happy with boyfriend but comparing with newly lovers and now questioning if should have more intensity

I just went to a Samba class (workshop actually) and feel like crying.

I'm 30 female, never tried dancing ever.

I have zero experience with dance, and it was supposed to be for beginners (eve though everyone had dance experience). I had so much trouble syncing arms and legs from the beginning, and then the routines kept adding up to each other and piled up, and I was lost and unable to keep up. Everyone else ought catch up.

I'm so sad because I thought I would be able to learn a move, that I would be at least in the average dancers, and because I would like so much to be able to dance (samba particularly) and have fluidity of movement, and be able to sync arms and feet in a basic move 😭😭

I am in general am anxious person and self aware so I knew that would make dance more difficult to me, but I wasn't expecting to be so bad.