![[astro-seek] Why do I struggle with self advocation? And when I do it blows up in my face with burned bridges.](https://preview.redd.it/4c6o9dv6sd2h1.png?auto=webp&s=55b0c4f93e3da43c7371a8b486346720aa3dda2d)
[astro-seek] Why do I struggle with self advocation? And when I do it blows up in my face with burned bridges.
I usually just let things go with the flow even if I do over analyze. I generally do not speak up or disturb the peace. But when I do on rare occasions, it's like the end of the world happens. The person or situation is withdrawn completely and I've ruined any chance of making what I wanted to happen, happen.
Examples: I was doing free work that I was told would turn into a paid position. After multiple nice/passive attempts of implying I need money or I'm done, I snapped. I refused to do one piece of work and the person completely removed themselves from me and cut everything off.
My brother and I have a strained relationship. I generally just went along with the family. And the one time I told them I was not going to do xyz for my niece, they blew up and completely cut ties with me. We've not talked for 4 years.
Previous job, I tried to passively ask to be cross trained. Then when I out right ask, I get an email that they are going to let me go within a week. Their reasoning was that I didn't seem to like my job?