u/Master-Gear-4620

Yes, 20. Married 15. He came home one day and did the discard. An affair had happened. He then proceeded to admit cheating.

I found out it was actually an 11 year affair. He refused to move out. They love their primary partner and the stability, don't they. Now there was zero reasons to do any work our accountability.

So I shamed that mfucker, like he deserved. How can he drop that in me and still live here? I stepped on his neck with the truth. He needed to leave.

He curled up in his little FA tortoise shell and I punted it. Super Mario Bros style .

He moved in with her. 6 weeks later, I am getting my divorce done this week.

I will now invest in me and my emotions, and not some gigantic, critical, flaw finding, never satisfied pit

I was an easy gal to date, which is an issue I will work on. The cool girl that gives you space, lets you do your hobbies doesn't check your phone. Avoidant candy.

Fifteen year marriage (20 year relationship) he comes home. "I'm leaving you in 2 days. Moving in with someone I cheated on you with yesterday!" That discard was life shattering, to say the least. They had been a thing for ELEVEN YEARS.

It's been a month. And now I know what a Fearful, dismissive leaning avoidant. I am divorcing. Still very heartsick, and will be for quite some time. I feel very stupid.

He is with her, although won't discuss it. lol. She is in for a world of hurt. If it lasts that long.

I loved hard. I cared deeply. And I gave my all. I can walk with my head held high. Not in a snobby way. But I know better things await. Especially getting to rediscover who I am