Curious what ways if any you utilize to experience your bisexuality, especially if you’re married with children.
Do you watch gay porn, do you engage in threesomes with your partner, do you just talk about it, or do you do none of those things or something else?
This is something I’ve been curious about for a long time and wondering if others can relate.
Growing up until I was about 12 I never had any indication that I was anything other than straight. At some point around then I stumbled onto some gay content and was surprised that it aroused me quite a bit.
I had a bunch of insecurity and denial from that point and over the next 10 years had a few encounters with men. First at 15 just kissing and oral sex, then around 18 doing the same and then around 20 when I finally had full penetrative sex with a man. All of them now are kind of blurs like my brain was blocking the memory, I really can’t recall many details of any of them.
Fast forward a decade and I worked a lot to accept myself and finally revisited being with a man when I was ready to not feel shame and just embrace it. I then met and hooked up with another guy where we did everything and I was enthusiastic about it with him. I felt no insecurity or shame after but I did leave feeling like the idea of it in my head was more satisfying than the reality.
That was 5 ish years ago. I’m happily married to a woman now and our sex life is amazing. We have a D/s dynamic where she is in control so there’s a lot of pegging and other things that put me in the bottom position. And I think I’ve realized that’s what I really always enjoyed.
Thing is, I’ve never been romantically attracted to men. I don’t ever recall having much of a crush and even being able to spot men that are good looking I feel I can’t. I enjoy the submissive nature of bottoming a lot though, to the point that I still watch gay porn often. But it’s almost like the fantasy is better than the reality? Not that the reality wasn’t good but it just was a little different than what I’d always expected. It’s like I enjoy gay porn but prefer straight sex if that makes sense.
I guess I’m wondering if other men find themselves in a similar situation. I would consider myself bisexual but heteroromantic
This is something I’ve been curious about for a long time and wondering if others can relate.
Growing up until I was about 12 I never had any indication that I was anything other than straight. At some point around then I stumbled onto some gay content and was surprised that it aroused me quite a bit.
I had a bunch of insecurity and denial from that point and over the next 10 years had a few encounters with men. First at 15 just kissing and oral sex, then around 18 doing the same and then around 20 when I finally had full penetrative sex with a man. All of them now are kind of blurs like my brain was blocking the memory, I really can’t recall many details of any of them.
Fast forward a decade and I worked a lot to accept myself and finally revisited being with a man when I was ready to not feel shame and just embrace it. I then met and hooked up with another guy where we did everything and I was enthusiastic about it with him. I felt no insecurity or shame after but I did leave feeling like the idea of it in my head was more satisfying than the reality.
That was 5 ish years ago. I’m happily married to a woman now and our sex life is amazing. We have a D/s dynamic where she is in control so there’s a lot of pegging and other things that put me in the bottom position. And I think I’ve realized that’s what I really always enjoyed.
Thing is, I’ve never been romantically attracted to men. I don’t ever recall having much of a crush and even being able to spot men that are good looking I feel I can’t. I enjoy the submissive nature of bottoming a lot though, to the point that I still watch gay porn often. But it’s almost like the fantasy is better than the reality? Not that the reality wasn’t good but it just was a little different than what I’d always expected. It’s like I enjoy gay porn but prefer straight sex if that makes sense.
I guess I’m wondering if other bi men find themselves in a similar situation.