u/Maximum_Salad_5104

Masc, soft masc, non-binary lesbians of Reddit, just do it - get a short haircut.

I consider myself on the masc spectrum. Tall, no make-up, collared shirts, Vans. Hair one length, an inch above the shoulders or a little longer and in a ponytail most of the time.

I decided to get a much shorter haircut and have been completely floored by the results.

I went to a hairdresser recommended by a friend. The hairdresser was great. We talked about the general look, products, etc while she got into the process and the styling. When the haircut was complete, it was like a switch was flipped. She made long eye contact with me, lost her train of thought, and would not let me leave without a hug. Lovely, straight woman who was definitely attracted to the short haircut. ?!?!

The long eye contact and general discombobulation has continued with other women, straight and queer.

But the icing on the cake was when I met up with a woman that I dated for a while. We didn’t have a sexual spark (she attributed this to the fact that she went through menopause in her early 40s and didn’t need physical intimacy. I felt that she was letting me down gently) but we’ve built a sweet friendship. Anyyywayyyy, former girlfriend/current platonic friend had to talk about the haircut, how it suits me, is sexy. Literally had to just stop and stare. ?!?!?

Obviously, mileage will vary. Here’s the thing, the response from women has been strong and totally unexpected. It’s gives me *just* enough encouragement to shoot my shot with a woman I’ve been chatting with for months.

It’s not a phenomenal haircut (not really edgy or super queer) but it nudges women to see me in a different light, I think.

So, go ahead and take a chance and get that short haircut. Weirdly, it’s not even about whether it totally suits you or not. It’s a filter somehow?!?!?

It’s only hair and it will grow back if you don’t like it :-)