Need advice ng fem na to pag bigyan nyo na
Problem/ goal:partner still having in touch with her exes
context:seeking advice lang, di ko na kasi alam what to do. i have partner bago lang naman 1yr and half (pero ganito na effect nya sakin.) I have partner les. first wlw experience ko s'ya met her on college. i stop her at first kasi straight fem ako baka di ako sure about my feelings towards her, fast forward i end up having feelings with her too.. she courted me, everything is smooth not until one night may tumawag sa no. ko (konti lang nakaka alam ng no. ko family and trusted friends and sya lang.) had multiple missed calls then someone texted me, nag pakilala na gf nya. di ko alam mararamdaman that time. di ko alam nakasira bako ng relationship or what, gusto ko ng explanation kaya sabi ko sa partner ko, tell me everything. she told me ex nya yun. pero may anak yung ex nya and sya yung parang father nung anak ng ex nya, (the girl cheated on her with her friend.) i told her to fix it first bago sya bumalik. akala ko nung una kaya ko tanggapin na ganun yung set up. pero parang niloko ko lang sarili ko, i saw her na kinukuha anak ng ex nya dinadala sa bahay, hindi ako legal sa side nya. pero nilaban ko sya sa fam ko. reason nya why di pa nya ko pina kikilala is iniintay nya yun mom nya maka uwi from abroad, so okay, i will wait... fast forward last June to July umuwi yung kapatid ng ex nya, nandoon sya, akala ko nasa work sya... pero ewan siguro tama talaga yung guts feeling ng mga babae. I saw her in one of the live nag iinom sa bahay ng ex nya, marami naman sila. but still she lied. di ko alam yung gagawin ko. last week parang sumuko nalang bigla yung pag katao ko, kasi gusto ko mag move forward kami eh, I give enough love, support and care naman pero di ko alam why kailangan yunh past kasama parin namin sa present nya. ldr kami i broke up with her last week pero lumuwas sya bigla, i told her na bakit kung kelan sumusuko nako saka nya gustong ayusin. she's nice girl, gusto sya ng family ko. it just di ko alam kung sobrang bait nya lang ba or what. then this week lang she go on a birthday party, sabi nya friend nya lang. pero i knew it was her ex. ilang ulit ko tinanong, she always told me na why i keep digging on her past, the point na past mo na nga eh why nandyan pa? you're friend with your ex and sasabihin mo lang sakin friend mo? then her ex posted thank you message sa mag nag punta, pinag luto nya yun ex nya, may nag comment teasing my partner sa ex nya.
di ko na alam yung gagawin ko, I do love her, pero yung family nya gusto rin yung anak ng ex nya. di ko alam saan ako lulugar, hindi ko pa kaya tanggapin yung ganun set up. i might be really selfish, mali ba? when i just want to move forward na wala na yung mga ex\ past relationship nyang involve. her mom told her if we can keep the child of her ex. 3yrs old na yung bata. ang hirap ng set up, naiiyak nalang ako kasi ilang ulit man namin pag talunan she can't let go kahit ilang beses ako mag open up sa kanya, she will insist bata lang yun. pero nung birthday ng mom ko her ex was calling her. hindi ko sinagot pero nagulat ako the way they chatted same way how she make a conversation with me. it all started nung dec when i caught her having conversation with her ex. nag se-sent ng picture yung ex nya. worst it was Christmas. hanggang sa lagi nalang ganun, na build up na yung white lies but i never lie or hide anything sa kanya. di ko alam kung masama ba talaga na gugustuhin ko i let go nya yung child ng ex nya. i don't wanf her to have responsibility towards her ex. nasasaktan ako everytime pero she still go parin maman. ang hirap kasi first wlw ko to pero ako yung lagi nag a-adjust kahit ako yung gf