u/Mediocre_Main_102

I’m currently a size 30K in bra’s which you may or may not realise is pretty huge! Because I am quite petite it’s difficult to get high quality bras in a large cup size and smaller circumference. I therefore have had to shop at Rigby and Peller for years which costs me approximately £100-£300+ per bra. For some, it seems extortionate - for me, these bras have been a game changer for a while and I’m happy to pay out for them.

That being said, I have made the decision to have a reduction for a number of reasons… back pain, less clothing options (to hide a chunkier bra strap), feeling frumpy unless I wear something tight, you can get prettier bras in smaller sizes - and, one of the main reasons, is that whilst they look good now, I’m not getting younger and I don’t want to end up with saggy breasts when gravity does its thing.

I’ve decided to go down about 8 cup sizes to a C which may seem drastic but I feel like this will be the best option for me considering I probably have some kind of hormonal imbalance - not diagnosed - but with large breasts and endometriosis and adenomyosis I think it’s likely. My weight sometimes fluctuates a little (currently 64kg and planning to shred 8-10kg) and whenever I gain a little weight it goes straight to my breasts and they don’t seem to get smaller when I lose it again… with this in mind, I’m thinking going smaller is a better idea as I’m worried they will end up super large again otherwise.

I’d love to know other peoples opinions and feedback on:

1. Whether they think going from a K to C cup is a good idea?

2. Where to get pretty bras from in smaller cup sizes that aren’t going to stab me under the arm etc. and actually be comfortable - I could stick with high end bras but if I can find something good for cheaper then that would be great!

3. If you / someone you know has had a reduction - do you have any other general advice for me?

I’m 34 years old and I’ve recently come to realise that I am hyper sexual - although I haven’t had a diagnosis. Many of my past and present behaviours point toward this.

I wonder if my issue has stemmed from being with people who are too “vanilla” and haven’t wanted to explore some of my kinks which has resulted in me feeling seriously frustrated. Alternatively I also wonder if I’m just a bit sick in the head and I shouldn’t have the fantasies I do.

I am constantly thinking about sex and I love attention from men and being objectified which is probably strange to most women. I don’t know why I crave attention so much when I’ve never been short of it, yet I frequently dress somewhere between slutty and classy and make an effort with my appearance because I enjoy people’s eyes on me and the looks and comments I get. It’s like every time I leave the house is an opportunity for me to get attention.

My mind constantly races with sexual thoughts to the point I often feel compelled to masturbate at inconvenient times and have to go find a bathroom while I’m out to do this in. I always flirt with my boyfriends friends and purposefully do things to make them want me, like wearing a short skirt while they’re round and cooking something for them that I know their wives would never take the time to make them.

And then there’s my past behaviours like even when I was really young and a virgin I just remember constantly being horny and desperate to do sexual stuff… I just thought this would have calmed down by now but it never does! I just assumed growing up that everyone felt like this.

I have been completely unable to control myself sexually on a number of occasions (when I was single) which were really risky… like sleeping with peoples boyfriends whilst they were nearby, having sex in front of other people in public, talking to older men online as a kid and putting on a show for them. I don’t know why I was like that as a child when to my knowledge I was never SA’d - however, I did fantasise about being touched by older men like friends dads and teachers etc.

I don’t know if this is something I should get help for or anyone has some advice on how to manage it - other than a lot of sex with my partner.