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We had settled into daily FaceTime before bed for a few weeks and I didn’t realize how much I was relying on that until this last week it only happened a few times..

We still chat every day, say good morning and stuff, but it just feels like something’s missing if that makes sense. I get it’s not realistic to expect multiple hours of every evening, I just miss my bf and don’t know if I should say something or see if we get back to “normal”.

We had settled into daily FaceTime before bed for a few weeks and I didn’t realize how much I was relying on that until this last week it only happened a few times..

We still chat every day, say good morning and stuff, but it just feels like something’s missing if that makes sense. I get it’s not realistic to expect multiple hours of every evening, I just miss my bf and don’t know if I should say something or see if we get back to “normal”.

Like when nothing is clearly wrong, it’s just life getting in the way. And one of you just doesn’t feel like you’ve been as close as you’d like to.

Like when nothing is clearly wrong, it’s just life getting in the way. And one of you just doesn’t feel like you’ve been as close as you’d like to.

Still a new relationship (about 3 months) and while I have gotten a lot better, I still have very low lows. We’re over 1500 miles apart so frequent visits aren’t feasible. Sadly we’re still trying to work out a plan first visit…

I think the worst part is I didn’t even know what pain I was signing up for. But if I knew then what I feel now I’d still choose him every single time.

The hardest part is I want presence, I want grocery store runs, quietly cooking together, existing in the same room (hell in the same house would be good enough at this point), I want all of the boring stuff you take for granted in a local relationship. I want to be able to drive across town and sit on the couch and watch a movie or make him dinner after a long day.

Our relationship is sooo good, we communicate, respect and support each other, and are becoming each others safe space. The crazy part is a man I’ve never touched feels like home. I know everyone on here says it’s a terrible idea to go from distance to living together, but that’s our only option. Like a lot of other people we’ve had many serious conversations about serious life things, and we either agree or compromise. I’ve never had that before. He wants to understand my thoughts and feelings about things when they aren’t the same as his, and he accepts them. He goes out of his way to acknowledge the things that are important to me that maybe don’t mean as much to him.

Maybe I’m just looking at it through rose tinted glasses, but I can just feel that this man will be my husband. Due to life circumstances we could reasonably be able to close the distance in a little over a year, but there’s a high possibility that we could before then too. My question is how do I cope with the distance and the busy days where we don’t get our reprieve from the longing for a few hours on FaceTime?

Please don’t tell me I need to reconsider the relationship. I’ve made my choice. He is so worth the pain, I just need a little help learning to carry the distance until I don’t have to anymore.

Still a new relationship (about 3 months) and while I have gotten a lot better, I still have very low lows. We’re over 1500 miles apart so frequent visits aren’t feasible. Sadly we’re still trying to work out a plan first visit…

I think the worst part is I didn’t even know what pain I was signing up for. But if I knew then what I feel now I’d still choose him every single time.

The hardest part is I want presence, I want grocery store runs, quietly cooking together, existing in the same room (hell in the same house would be good enough at this point), I want all of the boring stuff you take for granted in a local relationship. I want to be able to drive across town and sit on the couch and watch a movie or make him dinner after a long day.

Our relationship is sooo good, we communicate, respect and support each other, and are becoming each others safe space. The crazy part is a man I’ve never touched feels like home. I know everyone on here says it’s a terrible idea to go from distance to living together, but that’s our only option. Like a lot of other people we’ve had many serious conversations about serious life things, and we either agree or compromise. I’ve never had that before. He wants to understand my thoughts and feelings about things when they aren’t the same as his, and he accepts them. He goes out of his way to acknowledge the things that are important to me that maybe don’t mean as much to him.

Maybe I’m just looking at it through rose tinted glasses, but I can just feel that this man will be my husband. Due to life circumstances we could reasonably be able to close the distance in a little over a year, but there’s a high possibility that we could before then too. My question is how do I cope with the distance and the busy days where we don’t get our reprieve from the longing for a few hours on FaceTime?

Please don’t tell me I need to reconsider the relationship. I’ve made my choice. He is so worth the pain, I just need a little help learning to carry the distance until I don’t have to anymore.

Uncertainty has been heavy on my mind lately, and the reality of LDR feels like it’s hitting in new ways every day. It almost feels cruel to love a person and be this sad about them too.

I do want this so so much, I just don’t want to live through the waiting or watching us live separate lives.

Uncertainty has been heavy on my mind lately, and the reality of LDR feels like it’s hitting in new ways every day. It almost feels cruel to love a person and be this sad about them too.

I do want this so so much, I just don’t want to live through the waiting or watching us live separate lives.

I apologize for this being a throwaway but I don’t want my bf to see this and know it’s me. I’m aware most of my “problem” is a combo of lack of experience and the relational experiences I do have are not helping me out currently.

I wasn’t looking for a relationship, but we met online and I’m sure a lot of us know how that goes:) Drive is too long to not be in “vacation” territory, different countries, but fortunately only one hour different. Basically I’m at the point in my life where if I’m putting effort into a relationship it’s because I genuinely see it lasting, rings and all. Once we both realized we had feelings we talked about it and appear to be on the same page. This may get me some judgment, but I really don’t care, we’ve been together for a couple months.

I’m not exactly sure what advice I’m even asking for. I miss him even though I’ve never seen him. There are a number of things going on that I’d give anything to be able to just go across town to help with/be there for support. Lately my feelings have been a combo of happiness and deep longing.

Again I’m sorry this is so vague, I’d be happy to share a bit more detail in private. Maybe I just want a friend who understands what this is like? Typically I’m fairly emotionally intelligent, but I’m utterly lost at the moment.