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My wife is a native Spanish speaker, We met and fell in love speaking English. Her English is basically perfect. My Spanish is pretty good but not perfect.

Her friends who only speak Spanish were visiting last weekend so of course we spoke in spanish the whole weekend and she was speaking to me in Spanish 100% of the time. Whenever that happens, it really bugs me and I can't understand why. It can kind of feel like I'm talking to a different version of her maybe.

And now that it's super top of mind, it feels like now she's speaking to me in Spanish wayyy more but I think I'm just noticing it more because it's annoying me.

I kind of brought it up to her gently and she gets it to some degree, she said she has a British friend she could never imagine speaking Spanish with even though they speak Spanish. But basically it was like yeah you need to get over that and it still feels like she's speaking Spanish to me way more than before which is ok because

I'm defintiely the problem here. I can't tell her to just not speak her native language lol, and the crazy part is i enjoy speaking spanish, I just don't want to do it with her for whatever reason. I dont want to be like that but I can seem to figure out how to fix being so annoyed by it.

Anyone in a bilingual relationship experience something like this? Is it an intimacy thing? A control thing? It's only been a couple days since I'm ruminating on it so I hope it will pass as maybe I'm just very irritable lately with some medication changes and big life transitions looming over us. (Moving to a different state, new job, some other things)

My wife is a native Spanish speaker, We met and fell in love speaking English. Her English is basically perfect. My Spanish is pretty good but not perfect.

Her friends who only speak Spanish were visiting last weekend so of course we spoke in spanish the whole weekend and she was speaking to me in Spanish 100% of the time. Whenever that happens, it really bugs me and I can't understand why. It can kind of feel like I'm talking to a different version of her maybe.

And now that it's super top of mind, it feels like now she's speaking to me in Spanish wayyy more but I think I'm just noticing it more because it's annoying me.

I kind of brought it up to her gently and she gets it to some degree, she said she has a British friend she could never imagine speaking Spanish with even though they speak Spanish. But basically it was like yeah you need to get over that and it still feels like she's speaking Spanish to me way more than before which is ok because

I'm defintiely the problem here. I can't tell her to just not speak her native language lol, and the crazy part is i enjoy speaking spanish, I just don't want to do it with her for whatever reason. I dont want to be like that but I can seem to figure out how to fix being so annoyed by it.

Anyone in a bilingual relationship experience something like this? Is it an intimacy thing? A control thing? It's only been a couple days since I'm ruminating on it so I hope it will pass as maybe I'm just very irritable lately with some medication changes and big life transitions looming over us. (Moving to a different state, new job, some other things)

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I’ve been teaching overseas for past 10 years I have no idea what to expect.

For those of you who have ESOL teachers at your school, what are their schedules like? Not having to manage an entire classroom sounds kinda nice but bouncing around all day stepping into other teacher’s classrooms sounds like everything might feel rushed.

I lived in Colombia for 6 years where I met my wife.

We’ve been in the states 3 years and should get her green card sometime this year.

Could be another 3-5 years before her citizenship.

I’m telling her we should do it just in case we need to move back here for whatever reason, maybe one of my family members is super sick or something and she can get in no problem and find work immediately.

But we want to be in Colombia long term.

We’d love to be teaching in international schools abroad right now. We can save way more money teaching in international schools in other countries.

We definitely want to retire in Colombia and our former school there would definitely give us jobs again.

Do we definitely need citizenship or can the green card be enough?

Anyone else in a similar dilemma? Why does it have to be such a long process lol

Seeing lots of people get their green card before their work permit lately.

It’s cool that the process seems to be speeding up but my wife just for a job offer for a teaching position starting August 15th.

We did biometrics on April 27th, I’d almost prefer the patterns I was seeing before where EAD was being approved shortly after biometrics.

Anyone have that happen recently?

Not sure how we’re going to communicate with HR on this. We can’t guarantee anything will be approved by August.