u/MellowAddiction

Genuinely asking but my depression has been getting pretty worse lately because my one source of comfort, my f/os and ships, I feel is pretty...gatekept o guess? People are really rude to me for not knowing everything about canon, for "mischaracterizing" my f/os when I write or do imagines/templates of them because "they don't act that way in canon" and telling me i wouldn't be their type etc. im just tired of it. And honestly I feel there's a major hypocrisy because people are usually fine with ccxcc ships with my f/os but the second I ship with them it's "they don't care about anyone in canon so they wouldn't love you/you're mischaracterizing them"

So anything I can do to still get comfort from them? I truly would love to fill my tumblr blog up with my stuff but I just don't feel like I can and outside of my friends dms I don't feel I have anywhere to talk about my f/os (and I don't like spamming in dms so I really just feel like I need somewhere to gush whenever I need to). I feel too scared to even write my ships because I don't wanna mischaracterize my f/os. I just wish I could gush and do whatever I want and the canon obsessed people would just block or ignore me if they have nothing kind to say. I don't feel like I should have to do years of research on a character to f/o them and make sure my ship is perfectly canon compliant and not f/o characters who I might not be the "type" of. It feels ridiculous but idk what to do.

I hope this makes sense, I've been highly considering this potential f/o for a bit now and think it's likely I'll ship with him but I'm a bit unsure what to do regarding his design. He has two; one when he was in his late 20s and another that's his present day design in the story. I find both designs very beautiful but thing is, most official arts & marketing of him use his younger "more appealing" design so there's not as much official arts or visuals of his present day design. I might just be overthinking this but my sona wouldn't have known him when he would've been in that era (to fit in with canon lore and everything) so I'm unsure how to go about it, like is it fine for me to just use the official arts of his past self to gush over? And when drawing him with my sona which design do I use, can I just use both and have like separate aus?

This isn't that serious I know and might just be more thinking too deeply into it but what would you do/what has anyone here with a f/o with two (or more) designs done in this situation?

Hi! So I recently announced my two newest f/os on here; Ryui and Ten. Well now I'm going through some stuff after getting some backlash that apparently it's not actually okay to yume with Ten because he's canonically written to be a misogynist (for clarification: he's written to be generally an asshole and shitty person in general, I didn't know people considered him as a canon misogynist - i thought yk he's just an asshole and there's nothing wrong with yume characters like that. I don't support his bad traits or defend them tho). Now I just don't know what to do as I really don't wanna drop all my 18trip f/os because I'm attached to them all and the game itself. I feel like I'm just too attached to drop it yk and I could drop Ten but then my list would be down to 9 (idk why but odd numbers in things always annoy me, sounds stupid but kind of a big deal to me-)

I just don't know what to do and don't really have anyone I can talk about this with so does anyone have any genuine advice on what I should do about this? Thanks so much in advance!

Idk if this counts as "fictophobia" as I'm being harassed mainly for who I f/o and how many f/os I have (10 now). I just can't take it anymore tho. I just try to happily post about my f/os on tumblr and all I get is harassed. If it's not how many f/os I have then it's about how I write my f/os "ooc" or don't know everything about them (I had to stop sharing any writing because of this). Yesterday I announced my newest f/o (Ten from 18trip) and because he's written to not be a great person (he's a misogynist) people insisted I must agree with his actions and began harassing me for it, demanding I drop him as a f/o etc. I don't condone his misogyny or actions at all. I love other aspects of his character and like him in more of a "I can fix him" way + none of my f/os are a 100% copy paste of their canon selves when I f/o them. I do make them my own in some way and he's no different. Now I just feel miserable, don't wanna talk about him anymore and am regretting ever deciding to f/o him. I thought yk people would understand you can have a f/o you love but don't agree with all their actions but I guess not.

I just hate current internet spaces where people don't understand nuance and just attack anyone they dislike or don't agree with. Idk what to do as I do want a space to gush abt my f/os in but I've tried pretty much everywhere and it just seems there's nowhere for someone like me. It's easier to just not post or say anything, that way you don't give anyone more material to hate and harass you over. It shouldn't be this way. This is like so wrong and I know but idk what to do other than just leave these spaces. I'm tired and have just had enough of people ruining my f/os for me with all their hatred.