u/MembershipComplex850

We have those office chairs where some are fine and some feel like they were built as punishment. I finally found one that didn’t destroy my back and kept it at my desk for months. Then this guy from the row behind me started taking it whenever I worked from home. At first I just rolled it back in the morning. Then he started taking it while I was literally in meetings because apparently his chair sucked. I asked him twice to stop but he kept doing it.

So one Friday before leaving I swapped my chair with the worst chair in our section. Same model, looks almost identical, except it slowly sinks while you sit in it and one wheel randomly locks up. I left that one at my desk and moved my good chair into an empty office nobody uses. Monday morning he came over, grabbed the chair from my desk like usual and rolled away without even looking at me.

He used it for almost two weeks. Every few hours I’d see him pull the lever and raise himself back up because the seat kept sinking. Eventually he got annoyed enough to stop stealing it and went back to his own chair. My good one came out of hiding the next day. He hasn’t touched it since although i actually think he was doing it to annoy me bc who frecken uses a bad chair for that long just out of spite.

We've been married for nine years. Last week during a stupid argument about dishes she said something that has been eating at me ever since. I was trying to decompress after work, half listening while playing jackpot daily on my phone and she snapped that this was exactly the kind of thing that ends up on the list. I asked what list. She got quiet at first bc apparently this slipped out accidentally then she told me she has been keeping a mental list since we got married of things i've done that she will not actually ever forgive. She's said she's forgiven them. We've moved past them but she has a running tally. She told me there's about 14 things on it currently. I asked if i could know what was on the list but she didn't tell me anything. That telling me would defeat the purpose of having it. She doesn't see why i'm so disturbed. She thinks its just a coping mechanism and it doesn't change how she feels about me day to day. I cant figure out if she's right or if she just told me our marriage is built on a ledger i'm not allowed to see.