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Porn, lust, and masturbation come up often in Christian spaces, and the pattern is familiar: someone feels trapped, confesses, tries harder, does well for a while, falls again, and then feels ashamed and hopeless.

Do not confuse a long battle with a lost battle.

One thing we often miss is that this struggle is not only about sexual desire. It is often connected to the lies we believe about ourselves.

This is not just a men’s issue, either. Men may talk about it more openly, and many resources are aimed at men, but women also struggle with porn, lust, fantasy, masturbation, secrecy, and shame.

A lot of people are not just thinking about the sin. They are carrying deeper lies:

“I am unwanted.”
“I am powerless.”
“I need this to feel better.”
“I will never change.”
“I am disgusting.”
“God is done with me.”

Those lies can become a false identity. And when we live from a false identity, sin starts to feel normal, comforting, or inevitable.

That is why “try harder” is not enough. Filters, accountability, and practical boundaries can help, but Christians also need renewed minds. Romans 12:2 talks about being transformed by the renewing of the mind.

A practical exercise that may help:

Write down the lie you usually believe before you fall.

Then write down the truth of Scripture that confronts it.

For example:

Lie: “I will never change.”
Truth: “He who began a good work in you will complete it.”

Lie: “I am condemned.”
Truth: “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

Lie: “I am alone.”
Truth: “I will never leave you nor forsake you.”

Lie: “I cannot escape this.”
Truth: God provides a way of escape in temptation.

Then speak that truth before temptation comes, not only after you fall.

You can start by asking, “What truth will I speak before temptation comes?” For example:

·       If I feel rejected, I will say, “I am accepted in Christ.”

·       If I feel powerless, I will say, “The truth sets me free.”

·       If I feel alone, I will say, “The Lord never leaves me or forsakes me.”

·       If I feel ashamed, I will say, “There is no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

·       If I feel tempted to use another person for fantasy, I will say, “This person is made in the image of God and is not an object for my consumption.”

Don’t wait until temptation is strong to decide what obedience looks like.

Decide in advance.

Many people fail not because they never wanted freedom, but because they had no plan for the moment temptation arrived.

Also, secrecy is one of the strongest parts of the cycle. Confess to God, but also bring the struggle into the light with a mature and trustworthy Christian. Not someone who will shame you, and not someone who will excuse everything, but someone who can walk with you in both grace and truth.

The goal is not just a longer streak of no sin. The goal is healing, honesty, renewed thinking, and learning to live from your true identity in Christ.

Lies keep people bound. Truth sets people free.

Have you been struggling?  What have you done to overcome this issue?

A topic that comes up often here is the struggle with porn, lust, and masturbation. Many believers love Christ, hate their sin, confess it, try harder, fall again, and then drown in shame.

Do not confuse a long battle with a lost battle.

I’m convinced this is more than a “lust problem.” It is often an identity problem.

Before the behavior, there is usually a thought. Beneath the thought is often a lie. Beneath the lie is often a false identity we have slowly built over time.

Lies like:

“I am dirty.”
“I am powerless.”
“I will never be free.”
“I need this to cope.”
“My past defines me.”
“God is disappointed with me, so I may as well hide.”

Those lies are not harmless. They shape desire and make sin feel inevitable.

Romans 12:2 says we are transformed by the renewing of our minds. That means we do not just need better filters, more willpower, or longer streaks. Those things may help, but we need the truth of Scripture to replace the lies we have agreed with.

When the lie says, “I am powerless,” Scripture says, “I can do all things through Christ who strengthens me.”

When the lie says, “This is just who I am,” Scripture says, “If anyone is in Christ, he is a new creation.”

When the lie says, “I am condemned,” Scripture says, “There is now no condemnation for those who are in Christ Jesus.”

When the lie says, “I cannot escape,” Scripture says God provides a way of escape.

A practical step: write down the lie you usually believe before you fall. Then write down a Scripture that confronts it. Speak that truth daily, especially before temptation comes.

Also, bring the sin into the light. Confess to God, yes, but also tell a mature believer who will walk with you in grace and truth. Accountability should not only ask, “Did you fail?” It should also ask, “What lie were you believing, and what truth did you practice?”

Freedom is not merely, “I stopped looking at porn.” The deeper goal is becoming whole in Christ.

I am in Christ.
I am set free.
I am defined by God’s truth.
My body belongs to the Lord.
The Holy Spirit lives in me.
God provides a way of escape therefore I walk in His light and truth.

Lies keep us bound. Truth sets us free.

Have you been struggling?  What have you done to overcome this issue?

Many believers are asking:

• Are we in the end times?
• Is the Tribulation near?
• Is this technology the Mark of the Beast?
• Is this current event a sign?

Here's my perspective:

Every day that passes brings us one day closer to the fulfillment of Bible prophecy.

One day the Rapture will happen.

One day the Tribulation will begin.

One day Christ will return and establish His Kingdom.

But while we wait, Jesus already told us what our focus should be.

"Therefore go and make disciples of all nations..." (Matthew 28:19-20)

Instead of being distracted by fear, predictions, headlines, and self-appointed prophecy experts, Scripture calls us to faithfulness.

We should be:

• Sharing the gospel.
• Making disciples.
• Teaching God's Word.
• Helping people.
• Encouraging believers.
• Living holy lives.

And we should be praying.

Jesus said:

"Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field." (Matthew 9:38)

Paul prayed:

"I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened..." (Ephesians 1:18)

And Revelation reminds us:

"They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony." (Revelation 12:11)

So while many Christians are asking, "How close are we?"

I think the better question is:

If Jesus returned today, would He find me faithfully doing what He asked me to do?

Prophecy should produce hope, urgency, and faithfulness—not fear.

That's where I've been landing lately. What are your thoughts?

Many believers are asking:

• Are we in the end times?
• Is the Tribulation near?
• Is this technology the Mark of the Beast?
• Is this current event a sign?

Here's my perspective:

Every day that passes brings us one day closer to the fulfillment of Bible prophecy.

One day the Rapture will happen.

One day the Tribulation will begin.

One day Christ will return and establish His Kingdom.

But while we wait, Jesus already told us what our focus should be.

"Therefore go and make disciples of all nations..." (Matthew 28:19-20)

Instead of being distracted by fear, predictions, headlines, and self-appointed prophecy experts, Scripture calls us to faithfulness.

We should be:

• Sharing the gospel.
• Making disciples.
• Teaching God's Word.
• Helping people.
• Encouraging believers.
• Living holy lives.

And we should be praying.

Jesus said:

"Ask the Lord of the harvest, therefore, to send out workers into his harvest field." (Matthew 9:38)

Paul prayed:

"I pray that the eyes of your heart may be enlightened..." (Ephesians 1:18)

And Revelation reminds us:

"They triumphed over him by the blood of the Lamb and by the word of their testimony." (Revelation 12:11)

So while many Christians are asking, "How close are we?"

I think the better question is:

If Jesus returned today, would He find me faithfully doing what He asked me to do?

Prophecy should produce hope, urgency, and faithfulness—not fear.

That's where I've been landing lately. What are your thoughts?

One of the most common questions Christians ask is:

"How do I know if I'm really saved?"

Many people assume that if they still struggle with sin, doubt, anxiety, or temptation, then something must be wrong with their faith.

But the Bible points us away from our performance and back to Christ.

"For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith..." (Ephesians 2:8-9)

Salvation isn't based on how strong your feelings are. It's based on what Jesus accomplished through His death and resurrection.

A few signs that your faith may be genuine:

• You trust Jesus for your salvation.
• You desire a relationship with God.
• Sin bothers your conscience.
• You seek forgiveness when you fail.
• You want to grow spiritually.

None of these save you. They are evidence of a living faith.

One thought that has helped many believers:

Dead hearts don't worry about pleasing God.

If you're concerned about your relationship with God, that concern itself may be evidence that He is already working in your life.

What helped you find assurance in your faith when you struggled with doubt?

One of the most recurring questions here is:

"Am I really saved?"

Usually, the question comes after a struggle with sin, spiritual dryness, or reading passages like Hebrews 6 or Hebrews 10.

If that's you, remember this:

Salvation is not based on your ability to perform perfectly.

"For it is by grace you have been saved, through faith..." (Ephesians 2:8-9)

The question isn't: "Have I been perfect?"

The question is: "Am I trusting Christ?"

Some biblical evidences of genuine faith include:

• Trusting Jesus Christ for salvation.
• A desire to follow God.
• Conviction over sin.
• Repentance when you fail.
• Love for other believers.
• A desire for God's Word.
• Gradual spiritual growth.

Notice that none of these describe perfection.

Paul himself described an ongoing battle with sin in Romans 7. The presence of struggle is not proof that you're lost. In many cases, it's evidence that the Holy Spirit is working in you.

One observation I've made over the years:

People who have truly hardened themselves against God rarely spend much time worrying about whether they're saved.

If you're grieved over sin, seeking Christ, confessing your failures, and desiring to walk with Him, don't place your confidence in your emotions.

Place your confidence in Christ.

"I write these things to you who believe in the name of the Son of God so that you may know that you have eternal life." (1 John 5:13)

God doesn't want His children living in constant fear. He wants us resting in His Son.

What Scripture has helped you most when you've struggled with assurance of salvation?

Negativity can quietly shape a home. It can start small, like complaining, fear-talk, sarcasm, assuming the worst. But over time it becomes the “normal” atmosphere. And kids especially absorb what they hear. They aren’t always trained yet to put fears and worries in context, so repeated anxious words can multiply in their minds and take years to unwind.

That’s why I so often promote taking Scripture seriously about mind renewal:

“be renewed in the spirit of your mind” (Eph 4:23).

Philippians 4 gives a clear pattern we can apply as a household:

• Practice rejoicing and contentment (Phil 4:4; Heb 13:5)
• Keep reminding each other: the Lord is near and He helps us (Phil 4:5; Heb 13:5–6)
• Turn needs into prayer: not panic, ask with thanksgiving (Phil 4:6)
• Protect peace: God’s peace guards' hearts and minds (Phil 4:7)
• Correct thought patterns: take thoughts captive and replace them with truth (2 Cor 10:5; Phil 4:8)
• Don’t allow fear to lead the home (2 Tim 1:7)

One practical family tool I’m using is: HAVE which stands for Have / Absorb / Voice / Embrace

• Have a verse that speaks the opposite of the negative thought
• Absorb it (read/write/meditate)
• Voice it (say it out loud, personally)
• Embrace it (treat it as God’s truth over you)

Our goal shouldn’t be a “perfect” home. Rather focus on having a home where faith and peace are normal, and where our kids learn to replace anxious thoughts with God’s Word.

For parents (or anyone leading a household): what are your go-to Scriptures or habits for keeping negativity from taking root at home?

Too often posts here demonstrate how easy it is to slide into negativity.  Sometimes it’s a passing mood, but most of the time it’s become a mindset. The problem is the more we focus on what’s wrong, the more we miss what’s good, and eventually we can start believing “nothing good will happen for me.”

One thing that helps me is remembering that our minds tend to notice what we expect. If I expect disappointment, I’ll “find” reasons to be discouraged. But Scripture calls us to a different filter.

Ephesians 4:23 says we can be “renewed in the spirit of your mind.” And Philippians 4 gives a really practical pathway:

• Choose rejoicing and contentment (Phil 4:4; Heb 13:5)
• Remember the Lord is near and helps us (Phil 4:5; Heb 13:5–6)
• Pray instead of spiraling—ask with thanksgiving (Phil 4:6)
• Let God’s peace guard your heart and mind (Phil 4:7)
• Take thoughts captive and replace them with what’s true and good (2 Cor 10:5; Phil 4:8)
• Reject fear and live from God’s power, love, and sound mind (2 Tim 1:7)

A simple practice that’s helped me is:

1. Find a verse that contradicts the negative thought
2. Sit with it (read/write/meditate)
3. Speak it out loud personally
4. Embrace it as truth God is speaking to you

Curious: what Scriptures have helped you move away from negativity and keep your mind steady?

This is my first Mother’s Day since my mom passed in December 2025.

She raised me alone. When pregnant and on her own, she considered adoption—but chose life and later said she never regretted it. She worked two jobs, kept us in church every Sunday, and provided a home, food, and clothes. I even found her crying at times when she thought I didn’t see. Yet she kept going.

“Let us not be weary in well doing: for in due season we shall reap, if we faint not” (Gal. 6:9). That verse describes her life. And I hold onto Psalm 34:18: “The LORD is nigh unto them that are of a broken heart.”

In her last years, the Lord allowed me to care for her daily. Honoring her (Ex. 20:12) became a privilege, not a burden. I believe God carried her through—and was with her in the end.

I’m also deeply thankful for my wife—my best friend of nearly 30 years. After coming to Christ, marrying her was the best decision I ever made. We’ve seen 1 Corinthians 13 lived out—love that endures, forgives, and hopes.

To every single mother: don’t give up hope. God sees you.