Why Does the Secret Child Trope Always Involve Hiding the Pregnancy for Stupid Reasons?
Why is the secret-child trope so often handled by the FMC (especially Hermione) hiding the pregnancy for reasons that, to me, really don’t hold up?
I’ve seen this in so many different Hermione pairings, as well as in traditionally published books. It’s almost always the same setup: the FMC gets her feelings hurt by an OW, or she assumes the MMC doesn’t want her because their relationship was casual or a one-night stand, or decides he wouldn’t want the baby anyway. Then she concludes that she has the right to keep the pregnancy/child a secret because “it’s her body and her choice.”
And I’m sorry, but I just can’t stand this. Obviously, women have the right to make decisions about their own bodies and pregnancies. But once a child exists, I don’t think “it’s my body” automatically justifies deliberately keeping the child’s father from knowing they have a child, unless there’s a serious reason, like abuse or the father being genuinely unsafe.
If the only reason is that she’s hurt, angry, embarrassed, assumes he doesn’t want her, or decides for him that he wouldn’t want the baby, I immediately lose sympathy for the FMC. To me, that feels less like protecting herself and more like making a selfish decision on behalf of everyone involved, especially the child.
I genuinely don’t understand why this is such a common and popular plot in pregnancy/secret-child stories. Am I the only one who struggles with the whole “it’s her choice, her body, and she knows best” justification when the motivation is clearly coming from a place of hurt or resentment?
I’m asking because I’m currently annoyed after reading this AGAIN in a FF. I actually love both the pregnancy trope and the secret-child trope, but this particular version drives me absolutely insane.